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Seperation....I wanted it but it's SO Painful


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So my SO and I have been seperated about 2 months now. I lost about ten pounds the first month we parted ways. I never realized what a blow it would be, despite the fact that I really wanted to split up starting about 2 years ago.

 

Here are the parts that are painful to deal with;

 

* waking up alone and realizing there's no one to wake me if I sleep through the alarm clock, there's no one to sit and drink coffee with, I have to take care of all the morning chores alone, there's no one to say to "I had the weirdest dream last night"

 

* Worrying about things in the house breaking or not working -- he was so handy

 

 

* Having no one to snuggle up to when watching TV, no hugs after a bad day

 

 

* If I'm sick, I make my own chicken soup and draw my own bath

 

 

* No little notes left on the kitchen table for me saying "can you get bread at the supermarket?" Even those little mundane things used to make me smile

 

 

 

No, I don't want to get back together. We had become incompatible over the years and no longer communicated well. It was time to move on. But damn, the good things about relationships are not easily replaced. I hope this hurt lessens over time...

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I feel your pain. It's those comforting things about a relationship that can make you lonely for the relationship, like being able to reach out in the night and feel them beside you, saying 'I love you' before lights out, snuggling on the couch and watching football (of course, cheering against HIS team)...

 

It does get easier. Little things like wanting to tell them something trivial but funny...and then remembering that you aren't with them anymore...a few 'oh yeah, we're done' moments will happen, but it does lighten up as time marches on.

 

Antha

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