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Ok so i like this guy, have done for a while, known each other about 9 months and got on amazing we always have done, never argued see each other regularly. I told him the other day (which took alot of guts) that i liked him. He told me he liked me to so i was like really releaved. I have very little confidence so i was prity proud of myself. Since ive told him we met up today went for a drink was abit awkward cus were always normally jokey and i think we both realised if anythings going to happen we need to have some serious moments and just talk on a level about anything. Was hard at first but i think it went great i spent most of the day with him just me and him went for a drink and talked for like 2 hours straight.

 

Hes very special to me as a friend so i dont no quite how to take it or how fast or slow to go without messing what we have up. Since ive told him tho its like somethings changed and i cant put my finger on what it is. I have this weird feeling maybe he said he likes me to for the wrong reasons. But he knows i have alot of self respect so he wouldnt get anything sexual out of lieing and he sounded like he really ment it when he said what he liked about me. Anyone got any advice? I havent ever really had a proper relationship before or ever liked someone so much to want to not mess things up. He seems like he really likes me tho but i just dont know im so not clued up about all this stuff so i wouldnt know if its genuine or how he feels. Hes such a special person and everyone says we would be great together and i think we would to. HELP ME PLEAAASEEE

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Just lay it out and tell him you like him romantically. Then touch his hand. See if he will come over to your place and have drinks on the couch. If the mood doesn't strike the two of you, just talk about the idea of dating in a more removed tone of voice hypothetically. See how that mental exercise goes. Of course, you might just click and not have to intellecutalize the crap out of it. :D

 

Good luck. I sort of have plans to broach this very subject to an old friend in the near future. So that is my game plan in a nutshell.

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Ok so i like this guy, have done for a while, known each other about 9 months and got on amazing we always have done, never argued see each other regularly. I told him the other day (which took alot of guts) that i liked him. He told me he liked me to so i was like really releaved. I have very little confidence so i was prity proud of myself. Since ive told him we met up today went for a drink was abit awkward cus were always normally jokey and i think we both realised if anythings going to happen we need to have some serious moments and just talk on a level about anything. Was hard at first but i think it went great i spent most of the day with him just me and him went for a drink and talked for like 2 hours straight.

 

Hes very special to me as a friend so i dont no quite how to take it or how fast or slow to go without messing what we have up. Since ive told him tho its like somethings changed and i cant put my finger on what it is. I have this weird feeling maybe he said he likes me to for the wrong reasons. But he knows i have alot of self respect so he wouldnt get anything sexual out of lieing and he sounded like he really ment it when he said what he liked about me. Anyone got any advice? I havent ever really had a proper relationship before or ever liked someone so much to want to not mess things up. He seems like he really likes me tho but i just dont know im so not clued up about all this stuff so i wouldnt know if its genuine or how he feels. Hes such a special person and everyone says we would be great together and i think we would to. HELP ME PLEAAASEEE

 

Just relax and let things happen on their own. Don't push it too hard or you may very well scare him away.

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I think that he probably does really like you. I also believe that some of the best relationships are built on a solid foundation of friendship. If you are not friends what do you have???. My suggestion is to take things slow there is no reason to move to fast. You are friends 1st allow things to just flow. Try to tell yourself sometimes that you two are exactly where you are supposed to be at that specific moment in time. Things will work themselves out just find. Live and have fun while you do it/

 

Ok so i like this guy, have done for a while, known each other about 9 months and got on amazing we always have done, never argued see each other regularly. I told him the other day (which took alot of guts) that i liked him. He told me he liked me to so i was like really releaved. I have very little confidence so i was prity proud of myself. Since ive told him we met up today went for a drink was abit awkward cus were always normally jokey and i think we both realised if anythings going to happen we need to have some serious moments and just talk on a level about anything. Was hard at first but i think it went great i spent most of the day with him just me and him went for a drink and talked for like 2 hours straight.

 

Hes very special to me as a friend so i dont no quite how to take it or how fast or slow to go without messing what we have up. Since ive told him tho its like somethings changed and i cant put my finger on what it is. I have this weird feeling maybe he said he likes me to for the wrong reasons. But he knows i have alot of self respect so he wouldnt get anything sexual out of lieing and he sounded like he really ment it when he said what he liked about me. Anyone got any advice? I havent ever really had a proper relationship before or ever liked someone so much to want to not mess things up. He seems like he really likes me tho but i just dont know im so not clued up about all this stuff so i wouldnt know if its genuine or how he feels. Hes such a special person and everyone says we would be great together and i think we would to. HELP ME PLEAAASEEE

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