lovesongofprufrock Posted November 14, 2006 Posted November 14, 2006 Let me start off by saying that I'm 24, and he's 35. Slight age difference, I know. But let's get past that. I also must begin by saying that I am not really your typical girl. If I want to have sex with someone, that's what I'll do. (But I have to know them fairly well first.) That's what this started off as. His name is Nathan, and we were connected originally through a mutual friend, Pauline. We were acquaintances first, then we started flirting a little, and one day he called me and asked me to come to his show (he's the guitarist and lyricist in a local band). That's when everything started, really, because we ended up getting drunk and having sex that night. The next day, instead of it being awkward, he called me "just to say hi" and ask me what I was doing the next day. Thus our little "relationship" began. About a week later, me being the sly one I am and not saying anything to Pauline about actually liking Nathan, Pauline decided to tell me that Nathan was worried that I would get "attached" and she reassured him that I was not that kind of girl. O_O Aye. Let's keep in mind that Pauline has lied or exaggerated about many things such as this, so I wasn't sure what to believe or not. I also have the slight notion that she might like him. Also, when I suggested to her that maybe Nathan and I should go with sort-of matching costumes for Halloween, she huffed kind of, and said, "Well, then everyone might get the wrong idea and think you're DATING." -_- For my birthday, Nathan spent a lot of money on me. He took me all over town, bought me dinner and drinks and the like. I thought it was just because it was my birthday. The next weekend, however, was not my birthday...and he did the same thing! Every time we go to the bar together he puts all of my drinks on his tab, et cetera. (Keep in mind, he's kind of poor). Just the small things. His friends also kind of started calling me his girlfriend...even though he has not yet. I also caught that he told someone we were "seeing each other". So it's been about a month since that initial "first time". I decided to put a huge test on him. It's my cousin's wedding in a couple of weeks. I called and left him a message inviting him to be my date. He called back and told me he would love to go. ;-) So. Advice time. Where do you think this is going? Do you think this could lead to anything? Are there any more tests I should pull? Thank you! Love Helen
DanielMadr Posted November 14, 2006 Posted November 14, 2006 Yeah sure. It looks like he has crush on you. Until he find someone better or you get killed:laugh: Please dont listen to your friends, especially if he has no penis Tests? Yeah go on. But dont be surprised when he starts to feel resentment towards you....he is not a monkey. Paying in restaurant.....he is not greedy and we men are taught to do this, besides we do like it. Just curious.....have you slept with him for second time? And more important question....Have you crush on him or are you just curious if he does and then let him go? If you do "love" him, sleep with him again....no more games.
amaysngrace Posted November 14, 2006 Posted November 14, 2006 I think his saying he'll go to the wedding pretty much implies he isn't going anywhere, at least for a month! Don't test him. Tests = Games. Have a grown-up relationship with your 35 year old man. Otherwise, he may treat you like someone who's 11 years younger than he is.
hindsfeet Posted November 14, 2006 Posted November 14, 2006 tests suck. just be straght up. ask him where your at. im a musician and contrary to what everyone thinks, not all musicians are into the 'hit it and quit it' relationships. there is way too much crotch rot out there to be dumb about sex. sounds to me like he straight digs you. he's 35. games are pretty much done for him. i am certain he would appreciate a straight up question to see where your at. also if he's a struggling musician and he is spending money on you and not new stuff, you are definitely in his head. us musicians are not bad people just stereotyped really badly because of that old marc wahlberg movie 'rockstar' LOL good luck -hindsfeet
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