I got a problem.

[The-Ty]

k. here's the rundown

i am 17, and never had a gf

i just really suck with girls

all my friends say i have a wicked personality and stuff

but.... i cant talk to girls

 

but thats not the problem here.

i recently met a girl that i really like

she HAS said she likes me, she always wants us to hang out, we always flirt a bit etc etc.

 

woot right?

 

nope. she has a bf.

 

i wont try to do anything with her because id feel like a complete dick, and she wont try anything because it would be cheating

i realize that she is caught in a predicament also.

obviously if she is going out with this guy, then she must have some feelings for him, and she probly doesnt want to hurt him

but she has said that she likes me

 

this is just killing me cuz i really want to be with her but that stupid *morality* issue is in the way

stupid morality.

always keeping me back.

 

so for now were at a mexican standoff without any mexicans

 

any ideas on what to do?

[DanielMadr]

Look. she gave you strong signals right? Go for it. She probably doesnt like her boyfriend but she is more afraid of being without one....girls are strange in this. She wants you to take a piece of responsibility.....seduce her, take her away.

 

Or she is playing with you and the strong signals are fake. Only a boost for her ego that another guy has crush on her....it happens.

 

Kiss her....if she kisses you back....she is yours. If not go away. Morals has nothing to do with it. She is not married and he is not your best friend. Or you want her to be with him till the end of times?

[hindsfeet]

tell her straight out. i like you but you gotta get rid of dude if you want to be with me.

 

dont kiss her cause you want to be able to trust her if you want a relationship with her. if you kiss her while she is with dude,and she lets you. when your going out with her you'll be wondering who is making moves on your girl and have trust issues cause in your head she cheated. (thats the stupid morality thing again i know).

 

if you think thats not gonna be a problem, go for it man. your in high school. you need some action ( not necessarily sex but whatever you want ) high school is perfect for dating experiences.

Daniel has good stuff there.

 

just be straight up man . if she dont want it. move on.

maybe date her friend LOL

 

-hindsfeet

[JMLbean]

I am in the same predicament except I have dated, am a woman, and am 25. This guy I like is in a 5 year long distant relationship, but keeps flirting with me and I don't know what to do. For instance he gazes at me and I've called him on it and he goes "oh I've just been practicing being wierd around people." And today, I was standing in the hallway of our studios he just called my name out and I was like what and he didn't say anything and then says "I don't know why I just did that."

 

On another note, we are great friends like we help each other out with projects and extra bs work and have some really amazing conversations that can be very intement. We aren't huggy mostly high fivers. I don't understand our relationship at all.

 

Anyone with any insight out there?

[MadDog]

Why don't you just find another girl who's single? At your age there are plenty of girls who are single and have yet to be "ruined" by emotional baggage. Don't hit on her. If you had a girlfriend, you wouldn't want some dude hitting on your girlfriend, right?

 

MD