London Girl Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 Ex dumps me 11 months ago. However, we have been FWB during time. I decide I cannot continue doing this so go no contact. At this point, I have not seen him for just over 2 months but he has emailed me a few times, none of which was instigated by me. His recent email, he tells me that he has finally moved into his new house, gives me his new address, ask me to check out his new place and mentions that my birthday is approaching (even though this is a month away!). I agree to see him 2 weeks after he sent me his email. When we met up, he takes me for dinner and pays, then to see a film and I stay over. Next day we go for a country walk acting all lovey dovey, he then invites me to his nephew's birthday party that same day, saw his parents and rest of family! I go home the next day and he calls me in the afternoon to check that I got home safely blah blah but I cut short and ended the conversation. That was just over a week ago and I have not made any contact or nor has he. I just don't know what my ex wants. He is giving me mixed signals. I have tried no contact and leave him be but then he contacts me! I don't bring up "our relationship and how he feels" as I have tried that before some months back and he told me then that "if the feeling is gone, how can you get the feeling back if we gave it another go" - he said this in July so that's when I decided to back off and accepted defeat and I told him I will move on with my life. But then he contacts me again a few months down the line - just what does he want? Any advice appreciated.
gonetildecember Posted November 14, 2006 Posted November 14, 2006 This is quite similar to my situation: its hard to read them when they seem to be inconsistent about what they want. What i think from my experience and what you said, is before when he knew you were interested in being together he felt safe in that he knew you were there IF he wanted you. then u kind of disappeared and he got lonely so made contact to see if you would still be around for him. what he wants. darling who knows, im still trying to find out for myself.
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