hismyangel Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 I meet him 13 months ago. He is from another state working in the state I live in...... we started out as friends and after 1 months our feels got stronger to each other..... we started sleeping together.. and fell in love with each other..He has been really nice and will go out his was for me and my daughter who lives by herself, but on the 3 months I find out his wife is 4 months PG ..... I was going to leave him but he ask me not to... he told me we will work it out some how just trust me, so I didn't walk away .. I flew in to his home town the day the baby was born and we spend the night together...( NO WE DID NOT SCREW)...He tell me that he don't care if he gets to my love to me as long as he get to hold me and wake up to me in the morning..... he has only gone to his house 9 weeks a few days (here and there) in the 13 months I have been seeing him... we also work a job together for 4 months and lived together on the road. Now I'm on the road working and he is still in my home town...but ever chance or free time we get we try to be together...Me there or he will fly or drive to me. The 4 months we worked and lived together his wife only call to see when he was going to put money in the bank. I feel like there really not in love with each other, and they are not sleeping together. He tells me he is not in love with her and that he going to see about a divorce... He also tells me that they are not sleeping together.. I have to believe him.. because I have been on the phone and web cam when he has been there...The only thing this MM ask me to do is to trust his and give him time and it will all work out... I guess what I'm looking for is does he love me or not? Should I believe he's not sleeping with his wife? How long should I have to wait?
whichwayisup Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 I feel like there really not in love with each other, and they are not sleeping together. He tells me he is not in love with her and that he going to see about a divorce... He also tells me that they are not sleeping together.. I have to believe him.. because I have been on the phone and web cam when he has been there...The only thing this MM ask me to do is to trust his and give him time and it will all work out... I guess what I'm looking for is does he love me or not? Should I believe he's not sleeping with his wife? How long should I have to wait? He has a daughter and another child on the way. He's married. He's been lying to his wife, so why do you believe that he wouldn't lie to you? He took VOWS when he got married, that hasn't stopped him obviously from lying to his wife. She's had a child with him and now another one on the way and THIS is how he treats her? By screwing around on her with you? I don't mean to sound harsh, but you need a huge reality check... You fill a need for him that he may not be getting at home, or he's just plain selfish! Don't you feel that you deserve a man who will only love you? Most people when getting involved in a relationship don't 'ask for trust' ... Don't you find it weird/odd that he is 'asking' you to trust him? He may tell you he's gonna get divorced, but until you see papers signed and he actuallly moves out, I highly doubt that what he has been telling you is true. Why would he walkout on his pregnant wife? What sort of man does that? If I were you, I wouldn't wait. End it now. Go no contact and tell him to call you when he's on his own, and divorced. IF he loves you as much as he claims to, he'll divorce his wife, and be with you. And if he doesn't, well - It is YOUR choice to stay with a married man and be second best.
Jane Doe Posted November 14, 2006 Posted November 14, 2006 He also tells me that they are not sleeping together.. Oh really? Then how do you explain the baby? No, you cannot trust him. Period.
Author hismyangel Posted November 14, 2006 Author Posted November 14, 2006 No, I have the daughter!!! He only has one child and he is now 9 months old..... Also, she was 4 months PG, when I meet him.
SoleMate Posted November 14, 2006 Posted November 14, 2006 I guess what I'm looking for is does he love me or not? He enjoys the benefits of being with you, whether for sex or cuddling or attention. Should I believe he's not sleeping with his wife? No, that would be irrational. How long should I have to wait? You can wait in the wings for 20 or 30 years and then be dumped by an MM. Sad but true.
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