what I have done wrong?

[Jenny t]

Guys just wanted to know why is this guy acting weird?

Well, Steve I became good friends for the past 6 months, he is single and he’s quite shy so I always teach him what to say or not to say to girls (he had no ideas when it comes to girls).

But then for the last three months he started flirting with me and I am quite sure he had a crush on me. Even though I still treated him the same way as before (as a good friend) and pretend that I didn’t know/didn’t feel anything different because I don’t want to ruin this friendship.

Since last month things have changed again, he’s been acting weird; he doesn’t speak to me as often as before but when he does speak to me he’ll try and not to look at me?

 

Is it because he has a girlfriend now? I’m not sure? Coz one time when we were in the car with few other friends, his phone rang and he had an sms message, one of the girl said, “oooh someone is calling you!” in a joking way.

Then he laughed and replied “yeah, my girlfriend”

I felt relief after I’ve heard that because I really like him as a close friend only and I really felt happy for him and I gave him a proud smile but he didn’t do anything, he look down and put his phone away.

 

Can guys not be friends with you once they have a girlfriend???

But I don’t understand though why he’ll make conversation with everyone else but me? What have I done?

 

Please can someone just tell me what I have done wrong and what can I do to be friends with him again.

 

Jenny t

[norajane]

Sounds like he's socially inept...I don't think you did anything wrong.

 

Have you considered asking him why he's been behaving oddly around you?

 

You might just give it a bit more time - maybe next month his behavior will change again.

[jenny t]

Sounds like he's socially inept...I don't think you did anything wrong.

 

Have you considered asking him why he's been behaving oddly around you?

 

You might just give it a bit more time - maybe next month his behavior will change again.

 

I did think of asking him, but at the time i was scared that i will create an opportunity for him to tell me he had a crush on me.

 

even though he doesn't speak to me often, he still look at me all the time.

like last night he was watching me talking to one of his friend (tommy) from a distant, i was just asking if i can borrow some dvd's from him.

well, Steve alway give tommy a ride to the bus stop(5 min driving distant, which is not far). last night steve said to tommmy that he's not going that way and get someone else to give you a ride???

 

But the point is steve never gos that way??? he always drive around so he could drop tommy off. another thing was at the time there was just me, steve and tommy in the room so the conversation only includes the 3 of us, but when we walk towards the exit there was some other people there (by the time tommy has gone outside and i stayed just near the exit). as steve entered the locker room just next to the exit he said to the guys in the locker room, "i am picking my girlfriend up so i can't go that way."

no one knew what steve was talking about, but they teased him about having a girlfriend.

 

i want to know does guy do that? once they have a girlfriend they ditch their friends???

why does he hate me??? i think he does hate me now.

we used to have a good laught at lunch time, i missed that so much coz it's very tense and quite now when we have lunch and i think we have to sort this out coz we work together and it feels very awkward at the moment.