erc23 Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 I could really use some 3rd-party advice on my situation: To start with my girlfriend is a slut - when we first got together we both ran down our 'lists' and she's basically slept with everyone I've known and then some - between 30 and 50 people. Before I fell for her this didn't bother me too much, the past is the past right? After we fell in love she would always say I totally changed her and she's ashamed of what she did before us and blamed it on being molested when she was a child and I eventually started feeling worse and worse about it. It has since been 4.5 years, 1 of which we've been engaged. About a week ago she asked that I move out for a little bit so we could take a break; I figured no big deal, she's taking me for granted and just needs some time to think. During this break I started sniffing around and found out she's been sleeping with someone else for about a month. As if this wasn't bad enough, her best friend felt so bad for me that she broke down and revealed that my fiancee has cheated on me numerous times throughout our relationship and hasn't told me because she loves me too much to hurt me. I confronted her about it and she's extremely ashamed and sorry and said none of them meant anything, she just got drunk and they used her. All of this seems pretty straight-forward right? I should just cut my losses and leave because there's no way that this won't happen again if we reconcile. But I can't do it. We're still both deeply in love, neither of us can stay away from the other, we are still seeing eachother and making love but she's still seeing this other guy - says their not in love but they have 'feelings' for eachother - at the same time she says she'll never stop loving me and unfortunately for me I feel the same way. I am completely confused - most of the time I think about all this and its hurts really bad and I get mad at her for it, but once I see or talk to her it all melts away and we love eachother as if nothing happened. My guy friends tell me she's a whore and I should hate her and never talk to her again and my girl friends say I should keep in touch but not be as close are we still are now. She basically still wants to be with me, but not in a relationship - I think she just wants to be friends with benefits but I think we love eachother too much to keep it at that. Any advice would be greatly appreciated, thanks.
laRubiaBonita Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 i think you should sleep with her friend.......the ratted her out!
Author erc23 Posted November 13, 2006 Author Posted November 13, 2006 Man I knew someone was gonna say that... Her friend is actually involved with someone and is about 250-300 lbs... gg
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