KT18 Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 I have written a previous post about my predicament. I am currently out of the state at a work conference, which helps. I did, however, have a horrible dream about my ex last friday night. My dream was about him finding another girl that he likes (who was into rodeo, mind you) and his mum knew about it but didnt tell me. Anyway I wake up Saturday morning and call my ex ( I am such a DUMBARSE) and he tells me it is definately over and he is looking for someone else (in the same conversation he said that he loves me). No contact and he thinks it is because I met someone!!! I told him I havent and I miss him and he virtually said that it doesnt matter. He said I left some things behind and I told him that if he gives them to his mum I will get them off her when I get back because I dont want to see him. Its the dreams that are the killer. I have tried listening to CDs going to sleep and reading so I dream of other things but I keep dreaming about him. This may sound pathetic but I know that he loves me. He just doesnt want to be with me and that is hard. Arent you meant to work at it if you love each other. You dont just give up. I think that he is a BIG FAT LIAR.
phoenix21 Posted November 17, 2006 Posted November 17, 2006 Hi KT, I feel the same way you do. I was with my ex for 2.5 years. We were engaged and even bought a condo together. It's a long story, but you can read it if you want on my thread. Short story, our relationship got flat and she lost some feelings. She said that she loves me, but she's not sure what kind of love it is. If we care for each other and even love each other, why just give up? That's what I don't understand either, but I know it has to do with feelings, not logic. I know it's hard, but the best thing to do is NC. I've had my moments when I can't stop thinking about her and I want to contact her so bad, but I know that she will never figure out how she feels if I'm still around. Good luck and let me know how things go.
jjmac Posted November 17, 2006 Posted November 17, 2006 I have written a previous post about my predicament. I am currently out of the state at a work conference, which helps. I did, however, have a horrible dream about my ex last friday night. My dream was about him finding another girl that he likes (who was into rodeo, mind you) and his mum knew about it but didnt tell me. Anyway I wake up Saturday morning and call my ex ( I am such a DUMBARSE) and he tells me it is definately over and he is looking for someone else (in the same conversation he said that he loves me). No contact and he thinks it is because I met someone!!! I told him I havent and I miss him and he virtually said that it doesnt matter. He said I left some things behind and I told him that if he gives them to his mum I will get them off her when I get back because I dont want to see him. Its the dreams that are the killer. I have tried listening to CDs going to sleep and reading so I dream of other things but I keep dreaming about him. This may sound pathetic but I know that he loves me. He just doesnt want to be with me and that is hard. Arent you meant to work at it if you love each other. You dont just give up. I think that he is a BIG FAT LIAR. I don't know if I'll get shot down or what for this, but when I have touble sleeping a glass of red puts me right out... Red and a book is the recipy for a good nights sleep after a rough conversation with an ex...
Summer2000 Posted November 18, 2006 Posted November 18, 2006 I still have dreams about my ex as well.. In fact a few nights ago I had a dream my ex was telling me how much he loved me.. When I woke up I was so upset.... I think you are going to have dreams for awhile, as your break up is still pretty fresh.. Its totally normal.. You are doing all the right things by having no contact, focasing on work, reading books and listening to music.. Before you know it you will not dream about him anymore.. Right now, he is all that is on your mind... It just takes time.. Just remember you are strong.. Summer
Author KT18 Posted December 6, 2006 Author Posted December 6, 2006 I got back from interstate and took my boxes and things out of strorage, started unpacking and found he had put photos of himself in my boxes. Is he insane??? What is with that?? and he has emailed, messaged my mobile and called me once. He broke up with me!! Leave me the hell alone! What, does he want me to unpack and cry. Get over yourself Ben. Your not that special.
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