bbgrlnas Posted November 12, 2006 Posted November 12, 2006 Here's my situation. My now ex-boyfriend as of today has for the past 4 months been seeing someone else. We were together for 3 years. We have a beautiful 6 month old daughter together. He also has a 1 year old son with a girl that he cheated on me in the past with. I didn't know he had a son until I found out I was pregnant. I was afraid to be alone so I stood with him. So for the past four months, he stopped coming home at night and I saw all of the signs as I did in the past. I found pics of him and her in a hotel room and knew I needed to end this. To make matters worse, his mom rented them the hotel room and he brought her to his mom's wedding. Apparently, he told his family that we haven't been together for months which was obviously untrue. He's moving the rest of his things out wednesday. I thought that I was gonna spend the rest of my life with him. I'm glad it happened now that our baby is still a baby. How am I going to deal with this. I've been through break-ups, just not with a baby involved. He has hurt me so much. I can't do NC because I have a baby with him. I don't know if anyone has been in this situation before but what is the easiest way to get through it. I know if married couples can do it then I can it's just easier said than done. He destroyed my self esteem and always called me name. My biggest fear is never meeting that someone special. Please I need some input. Thanks.
miss snoopy Posted November 12, 2006 Posted November 12, 2006 (((((((((((hugs)))))))))) I can imagine what you're going through. You're right, it's probably small comfort but this loser has left at the best time, i.e. before the little one had a chance to form an attachment to him. I hope you have family and friends close by to support you. Don't feel you're undateable, get involved in toddlers groups (or groups appropriate to your child's age) and you may even meet a nice single dad! He may decide to get involved with his child at a later date, but I suspect that if you push him now, he may pull away towards this other woman/child. So get family and friends in and stay strong!
norajane Posted November 12, 2006 Posted November 12, 2006 Don't forget to talk to a lawyer about getting appropriate child support. He is still her father and needs to be responsible to her.
Author bbgrlnas Posted November 13, 2006 Author Posted November 13, 2006 Yeah he did leave at the best time. It's just so hard with the holiday around the corner. He isn't with the girl that he has a son with, he's with someone he met a few months ago. I'm just confused and scared. I haven't heard from him in a few days and I think he's moving in with this girl. Will the pain go away.
LakesideDream Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 Wow, you are well to be done with this silly relationship. It's a shame you brought a child into the world with him. Time to get on with raising your kid, and settling down to a normal life! As for meeting someone "special" you have, your child. You have already made your share of mistakes, don't neglect your child to make another.
Author bbgrlnas Posted November 14, 2006 Author Posted November 14, 2006 That's one thing that would not happen. My baby is my world. This is just very hard.
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