Looking for info regarding HPV

[falling but scared]

I've started dating someone who informed me that they have been diagnosed as someone who has HPV. I've read countless web pages that talk about what it is, how people get it, how not to get it, and the like. I'm looking for insight on what it means to someone who doesn't have it and is dating someone who does have it.

 

From what I read it's quite common but...

If a condom is not necessarily effective then it must greatly impact the sex life aspect of the relationship I assume?

 

If a relationship really developed into something and the thought of children was part of the equation how would you impregnate the woman if contact could/would lead to you contracting HPV?

 

Any insight or personal thoughts, experiences and or feelings would be greatly appreciated.

[whichwayisup]

I suggest you also talk to your doctor too, just to find out more about this.

 

You need to know the times when your partner is having an outbreak or not feeling good, or is really stressed out - Those are the days you don't have sex. And ALWAYS use a condom, no matter what!

 

Is your partner taking medications? Keep the lines of communication open and be honest about your own fears too.

[falling but scared]

I plan on talking to my doctor as well. I guess my main concern at this time is whether or not I should become invloved with this person. The hardest thing is that I really like her and want to weigh the possible limitations to a relationship against the positives of one. I'm scared for the fact that I don't want to have to live a life walking on eggshells when it comes to a sex life. While it's not everything in a relationship, at least not to me, I don't want to feel limited either.

 

She is very aware and concerned about it. She has gone to the doctor many times thinking she was having an outbreak when she wasn't. She has had one known outbreak in about an year. As for meds, I'm not sure if she is on anything.

 

Her communication to me has been appreciated. She has expressed to me that it's a decision I have to make as it relates to being with her and that she would understand if my choice was to walk away. The kicker is that she is EVERYTHING I've ever wanted in a woman which is why my head is spinning and my heart is burning since being told about this.

 

I really appreciate your thoughts on this...

[Green]

I dont know if its that big a deal. I heard statisticaly 80% of sexualy active people get that one. Some people never even know they have it because they dont get any symptoms. I'd go talk to you doctor or something about this but for the most part if I were you I would just use a condom and forget about this especialy if u really like this girl. I say its not that big a deal but speak to a Doctor of coarse..

[Guest]

HPV does not make men or women feel ill, unless it progresses to cervical cancer in a woman. Not all HPV has physical signs either. It is true 80% of sexually active people have it and there are NO symptoms in men and it will not show up in a regular doctor check up. There may be some special test, but most men dont request it.

 

If you have had sex with more than about 3 girls i'd say (protected or not) chances are you have it too. I'm just being honest.

 

It's a virus, not an STD and men are only carriers. Ask her is her HPV causes warts. If it does, dont be unprotected when she has an outbreak.

 

Wear protection anyway, but know that it does not completely safe guard you from the virus and good for her in telling you in the first place. Most women dont share this info because it doesnt get detected in men.

 

I have it, and i didnt tell my bf about it until 1 year into our relationship, i explained everything, and he is fine with it.

 

Good luck!

[Guest]

I also heard there is a shot you can take now like a vaccine for HPV. Men can develop warts if exposed to it. You want to ask your doctor about these things and always wear a condom, its just smart!