insomnie Posted November 12, 2006 Posted November 12, 2006 My boyfriend and I have been pretty unhappy for a while. I get the sense that he doens't like spending time with me, and he tells me I "stress him out." We get into fights about this every weekend, which of course adds to his stress and my feeling unloved. Our relationship goes like this: Every Friday, at around 9, I go over there with my computer. We usually smoke pot and spend the evening hanging out. The smoking thing I have no moral problem with, but since I don't see bf all week I kind of feel like we're using drugs to escape being with each other =(. This gets me depressed and I pick fights. We spend the end of the night arguing, then I leave early the next morning. Usually on Saturday we make up, then I see him maybe once during the week for lunch or something, then it's Friday again, new week same story. I do love him a lot but I'm not getting anyhting out of the relatinship anymore except for a LOT of bad emotion. It hurts feeling like he doens't like being with me, especially when on top of our pattern he rejects me sexually over and over again. I've tried talking to him but he hates those conversations. They are the source of HIS stress/unhappiness with the relaitonship....he thinks I am hard to please/confrontational. He wants me to "just be happy". I'm very happy in my life overall actually, but kind of stuck in a rut with him. Anyone have any advice on how to patch things up? We're supposed to get together tomorrow to "talk" and I would really like to be armed with a strategy on how to fix things.
Guest Posted November 12, 2006 Posted November 12, 2006 if u feel that smoking pot is a way of escaping spending time together n thats what causes the fights then don't smoke it when u see each other. Rent a dvd and relax together or something like that. Pot would also contribute to ur bf's stress because he wouldn't be in the right state of mind to deal with the stress.
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