blonde ambition Posted November 12, 2006 Posted November 12, 2006 Hello everyone! I've been reading for a while now, and look forward to participating here. Thanks in advance for your input!! I've recently decided to try out 'internet dating' through two well known sites. I'm very close to the first 'real' step of meeting a few guys in person. One has suggested coffee, another has suggested full-blown dinner/drinks/etc. What's 'normal' or average in this situation? And at the end of the first meeting, what usually happens? Is the next date arranged or suggested at that time (assuming it went well), or...? Any input would be great.
theadventure50120 Posted November 12, 2006 Posted November 12, 2006 Arrange another date near the end of the first date , that's if you feel it went well. and just talk about things over dinner or drink , get to know each other , and feel kinda comfortable with each other. I think you should atleast feel comfortable after the first date. If not then something is wrong.
hindsfeet Posted November 12, 2006 Posted November 12, 2006 what you are comfortable with is most important. there are some real tarts out there so be careful and dont put yourself in a wierd situation.
Green Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 I would advise having the first meeting be at a coffee shop saying your only willing to meet for about 10 minutes. that way if you dont like the guy you can say good bye after 10 minutes and that you never break your 10 minute rule if he trys to beg. that way you dont end up spending an hour or more with a guy you cant stand. If you really like the guy at first meeting then you can break you rule if you feel like it and plan the next meeting.
BannaBee57 Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 "I would advise having the first meeting be at a coffee shop saying your only willing to meet for about 10 minutes". KMT, I think 10 minutes is a pretty short time to form a whole opinion about someone. I know people say first impressions are important etc. But, in this type of situation (internet dating) people are often nervous and may not open up or show their full personality for a while. I think dinner or coffee is a good/neutral place to start though. Just give people a chance. "that way you dont end up spending an hour or more with a guy you cant stand". I don't think an hour is that big of a deal. If you're going to have a date then have a date. I've known a few people that have had a less than stellar first date but gave it another shot and end up hitting it off. Of course, trust your instincts though. If it doesn't feel right then cut it short.
ddnnee Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 "I would advise having the first meeting be at a coffee shop saying your only willing to meet for about 10 minutes". KMT, I think 10 minutes is a pretty short time to form a whole opinion about someone. I know people say first impressions are important etc. But, in this type of situation (internet dating) people are often nervous and may not open up or show their full personality for a while. girls can judge a guy in 5 minutes - whether the guy is compatiable or not. guys take years to figure this out.
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