My story

[Summer2000]

Hello,

 

Well I am going through a rough time.. I know a lot of you have given me some advise about my ex breaking up with me, but today I am not doing so good..

 

In case you don't remember, to make a long story short, I was dating a man that I fell in love with for a year.. During this time, he cheated and gave me a std, thank God it was curable.

 

For whatever reason I still love this man.. He told me that he did not love me and he never would.. He told me he wants to have a wife and kids, but not with me..

 

He keeps calling me now and e-mailing me trying to get me to go and see him so we can have sex.. I told him that I will not have sex with him for the sake of " no strings attached ". I told him that I love him and I want him back.. He told me that he does not feel the same and I need to move on, but if I want to have sex with him I can, he just does not want to know if I am dating someone else..

 

Anyways, I will be 30 in a few months and he is 34 years old now.. So we are not children anymore.

 

I am sure you are all asking how in the world I could fall in love with such scum.. I don't know how to answer that question, as I ask myself that everyday..

 

But today I went out and bought myself a book.. It is called " Its called a breaksup because its broken" anyways, I am only on page 50, but it seems to help a little..

 

If anyone is dealing with what I am right now, please go out and get this book..

 

I just hope this pain goes away.. We have been broken up now for a few months, but for whatever reason I still think about him all of the time.. He is the last thing on my mind before I go to bed and the first thing I think about when I wake up..

 

I think I am accepting the fact that he is gone, but I still feel so alone.. Maybe it is because Christmas is around the corner.. I don't know..

 

Thank you all for listening to me..

 

Summer

[Tony T]

There is simply no explanation for the people we fall for....NONE at all. There are many who think it's a chemical reaction of sorts and I do think that has something to do with it. But most often we fall in love with the person they want us to think they are (while on their best behavior) and not who they REALLY are. You certainly wouldn't have fallen in love with this guy if you'd known what kind of turd he really was.

 

This guy is truly a low class scum, knowing how you feel, to try to take advantage of you strictly for sex. He's a lowly worm if you ask me! (No, sorry, worms are good for catching fish...he's good for NOTHING!)

 

It takes time but you'll get through this and over him totally to the point you won't even think of him once during the entire day. Trust me on that. But just know love is a gamble and no matter who you decide to pursue, you just never know what they are all about until months or years down the road. That's the deal.

 

If you don't like the plan, get a dog! If you get a puppy you can raise it just like you want.

 

Oh, yes, as for Christmas. You're a whole lot better off alone than with a piece of shxt like your ex. Christmas is a good time to make friends, get out and do things...although I'm sure you don't feel like doing that. Go see some Christmas displays by yourself and know that next year someone very special will be there with you...and this year is yours to scout locations.

[D-Lish]

Summer,

 

Your ex really is a scum sucking maggot!

 

Why not switch teams and date girls?

 

haha. Nah, girls come with a whole host of their own problems!

Girls may not use you for sex, but they'll go into your closet without asking, borrow your make-up.... and who wants to deal with double PMS?

 

You're doing better than you think you are girl.

Give me his address and I'll kick his ass!

 

But TT is right, we can't choose who we love. My ex was a badly dressed, cross-eyed, uni-browed, pot bellied jack-ass. But I loved him like crazy, and still do. He would look at me with his one good eye in his ever familiar sweater tucked into his jeans look... and he still melted my heart.

 

So what did I do? Got him contacts, changed the sweater for a man-blouse, strapped him down and plucked that brow and made "one" into "two". Then he dumped my saucy little ass and went back into the dating pool with a brand new look, and a whole host of new found confidence from his hot makeover courtesy of moi!

 

I will never help my next ugly duckling become a swan.

Because he too may simply float away a confident bird thinking he can snag himself a hot pink flamingo.

Stupid birds.

 

YEOW!

Am I not flamingo enough for him? WTF!

 

uh-oh, what time is it? I think I missed my pills today.

D

[Tony T]

Summer,

 

Your ex really is a scum sucking maggot!

 

Why not switch teams and date girls?

 

haha. Nah, girls come with a whole host of their own problems!

Girls may not use you for sex, but they'll go into your closet without asking, borrow your make-up.... and who wants to deal with double PMS?

 

You're doing better than you think you are girl.

Give me his address and I'll kick his ass!

 

But TT is right, we can't choose who we love. My ex was a badly dressed, cross-eyed, uni-browed, pot bellied jack-ass. But I loved him like crazy, and still do. He would look at me with his one good eye in his ever familiar sweater tucked into his jeans look... and he still melted my heart.

 

So what did I do? Got him contacts, changed the sweater for a man-blouse, strapped him down and plucked that brow and made "one" into "two". Then he dumped my saucy little ass and went back into the dating pool with a brand new look, and a whole host of new found confidence from his hot makeover courtesy of moi!

 

I will never help my next ugly duckling become a swan.

Because he too may simply float away a confident bird thinking he can snag himself a hot pink flamingo.

Stupid birds.

 

YEOW!

Am I not flamingo enough for him? WTF!

 

uh-oh, what time is it? I think I missed my pills today.

D

 

Yeah, Summer, I'm so sorry I forgot to tell you your ex is a scum sucking maggot!!! Thanks D-Lish, sounds like your ex is a scum sucking maggot rotten sleezbag scuzz-bucket fart-collecting worm-eating slimmey butt-faced piece of trash himself!!! Of course, don't nice girls always go for those??? No, don't take this thread off to that topic.....

[D-Lish]

scum sucking maggot rotten sleezbag scuzz-bucket fart-collecting worm-eating slimmey butt-faced piece of trash himself!!!

 

What's wrong with fart collecting though?

[Summer2000]

My ex is every name in the book! I know he is a waste of flesh! He is such a loser!

 

D Lish- my ex did not know how to dress either! He did not know how to do anything right!

 

Why I loved him I will never know, maybe it was pitty!

[Tony T]

My ex is every name in the book! I know he is a waste of flesh! He is such a loser!

 

D Lish- my ex did not know how to dress either! He did not know how to do anything right!

 

Why I loved him I will never know, maybe it was pitty!

 

I wish I could find a girl who would pity me, help me dress nicely while I collect farts!

 

One day maybe we will all understand why we are attracted to the people we are. Meanwhile, there's LoveShack.....

[D-Lish]

I'm more than willing to do that for you! I'll even buy you an awesome G.I. Joe official collecting container!

All you have to do in return is put up with PMS... the occasional temper tantrum, and perhaps the odd foot massage (bunions from chronic stilletto usage). ouchee.

 

[Summer2000]

Do you think it is normal to have a sick feeling in your stomache after a couple month old break up??

[BrokenSpirit]

Yes thats just your nerves... Im someone that when I get upset it totally hits my stomach... I cant eat and I feel naustaous all the time... You just have to try and push yourself to eat if your not eating and try to have sprite or ginger ale to calm your stomach... Ginger ale should be warm to really calm your stomach... And you just have to try to push yourself to not think about him as much... I know how hard that can be TRUST ME! Im totally obsessive so I can relate... Im hesitating about breaking up with someone who Im not happy with because I know how upset Im going to be and Im scared to face it so I know how painful it can be...

[jjmac]

Could it possibly be the idea of him that has you so hung up? What if you met someone else who treated you right, had no baggage and wanted a relationship? Would you still be hung up on this guy, or would you tell him to go f-himself?

 

I suggest, as pathetic as it may seem... either start getting out and dating, or perhaps an online dating service... Put yourself out there for a while and see what happens. I'm willing to bet if you meet someone else, you'll be fine... I'm thinking this is a product of being in love with the idea of him, and not so much him...

 

Good luck

[Summer2000]

I have went out on dates, in fact I have 2 dates alone this week!

 

Nothing seems to help me, alls I do is think about my ex and how much I miss him.. Its so weird, as I know he is not good for me or good to me, I still want him.. Do you think maybe it is because he dumpped me? Is that why I am having such a problem here?

 

Why can't I just hate him?? Ugh

[theadventure50120]

I have went out on dates, in fact I have 2 dates alone this week!

 

Nothing seems to help me, alls I do is think about my ex and how much I miss him.. Its so weird, as I know he is not good for me or good to me, I still want him.. Do you think maybe it is because he dumpped me? Is that why I am having such a problem here?

 

Why can't I just hate him?? Ugh

 

Probably because he dumped you and you feel he has the upper hand. If you see him out and he tries to talk to you , ignore him. I did , it works. Then they get mad lol.

[Summer2000]

I will never see my ex out, as he lives an hour and a half away from me.. I kind of wished I would see him out when I am all dressed up and looking good..

 

How can I make myself hate him?? Its like I have a nagging feeling inside me to try and talk to him.. And I don't know why..

[shawn_68]

Its like I have a nagging feeling inside me to try and talk to him.. And I don't know why..

 

Because you still have hope of him changing his mind.

 

I held onto hope for a few months after a breakup with my ex-girlfriend. It prolonged the pain and nothing else. Meanwhile she was moving on. I learned a valuable lesson.

[D-Lish]

Do you think it is normal to have a sick feeling in your stomache after a couple month old break up??

 

maybe it's just a bit of gas?

lol

 

Yes, it's normal. The inability to move on plagues many of us.

I think about my ex 24 hours a day still, and him and I broke up at the same time you did with your ex. It takes a while for our brains to register that it's over...so we linger, hold on, hope.... and then one day it hits us that they are never coming back.

 

Everyone's right~ the best way to move on is to meet someone worthy of your love and attention.

 

You ex is a mean spirited, self centered little boy in a gigantic man's body. He's not worthy of your energy.

D

[Summer2000]

It just seems like I am really trying so hard to move on..

I go out with my friends, I dated a few people, go to work, read books, cook, clean my house, I mean I do everything in my power to break away from my ex..

 

Nothing seems to be helping me.. I just feel like I am a bigger failer since I can't seem to move on..

 

How much more can he have of me? I try not to let him hurt me anymore then he has, but I am still the one sitting here all upset..

 

I started to take a anti depressent, and the only thing these pills are doing for me is not letting me cry.. No matter what I can't cry anymore.. I just feel numb.. if that makes any sense..

 

Any idea's on what I can do?