nadineboyo Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 My boyfriend broke up with me about a year ago and since then we have still been in contact very frequently. we talk regularly, see each other regularly. I often try to implement no contact with him and it works sometimes and sometimes not. He says its not up to me to decide when to start and stop speaking to him and other times when he does not hear from me, he will look for an xcuse to call or see me. He told me about 3 months back that he was talking to someone else. Last week, i got fed up with his behavior cos he was acting up and refusing to take my calls. So i told his sister everything about our breakup and the way he acts sometimes. I went to his house about 2 days later and he was horrible to me, he refused to se me, to talk to me, he drove out and left me there. He said he was not angry but did not want to talk and we should communicate by email. He really humialited me. i thought he was mad bcos i had initiated no contact on him once again.It was when i got home that i found out that his sister had spoken with him already. I have aplologized several times and i texted him asking if we could talk and he agreed to talk by email, but never contacted me again and doesnt reply to my calls and txt messages again. its been 4 days now and i feel so bad and know what i did was wrong. He is a very stubborn person and i dont know how else to get through to him. will he ever call me again?
miss snoopy Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 Why are you still in regular contact with him a year after he left you? Talking from the point of view of someone who has (unfortunately) always dated men with ex girlfriend baggage, people like you make it hard for others to have a healthy relationship. He isn't coming back to you, if he was going to he's had 365 days to do it. Why don't you let him talk to this other girl and get on with your life without him? Do you see yourself still chatting to him in 3 years time when he's in his 3rd relationship, or engaged to someone? If you don't, what are you hoping to achieve by maintaining contact and getting upset when he doesn't call etc - he isn't your boyfriend so doesn't owe you anything. Sorry this is harsh but I just cannot understand why you're still hung up on someone who left you a year ago. Let him go.
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