SoundedPlum Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 I don't understand. My ex broke up with me about one month ago because the last few days of our relationship just started turning sour... apparently, I was getting too jealous and paranoid so he said it was "too much" for him. His initial intentions were to get back together with me, but then I initiated limited contact. I barely called him or even said "Hi" when I saw him. (I'd pretend I didn't see him)... well, except the first two weeks. I admit I called him and sometimes I'd even cry and ask him to get together with me again but he said "It's not the right time." so eventually, I gave up. During the time I did the "limited contact", he called me sometimes because he said, "You don't call me anymore and I know you won't, so I guess I have to." I sort of nonchalantly said, "Pretty much, yeah." ... but then he started talking to this girl, first as friends and now it's escalated into him liking her, vice versa. He told my best friend he's going to ask this girl out next week! His original plan was to ask her out tomorrow, but then my best friend said "Isn't that your old anniversary? The 11th of each month?" and he said, "Oh sh*t you're right. I guess I'll have to do it next week." His plans are to take her out to dinner and just pop the question! I'm baffled because it took him several months to ask me out because during that time, he wanted to build "trust" with me and actually get to know me better... so during those 4-5 months, we were unofficially together. Then we were officially together for 3-4 MAGICAL months! With THIS new girl, it took him TWO weeks. I'm sure she's not a rebound because HE was the one that broke it off with ME, so there's no point in rebounding... right? I was shocked because he's ready to jump into a new relationship already! I was his first official girlfriend in high school so I thought he'd be a little more sensitive! He told me about 3 days ago about this "new" girl and he said, "You don't know how hard this is for me..." and I acted as if I was happy for him and that I moved on. I asked him, "Have you completely moved on?" and he said, "I don't know.. I just don't know." He has no reason to be confused if he is 100% sure he wants to be with this girl! He said he really misses me and how we used to talk, but we "drifted apart". It doesn't hurt as much when I see them everyday (I'm in high school. My ex and I are both seniors and the girl he's going to ask out is a sophomore).. it just stings a little knowing I used to be that girl and now he's giving all this special attention to her. So many questions are reeling in my head... a lot of "why?" and "HOW?!" HOW so SOON?! I'm wondering for you guys that are reading... Have you gotten back together with an ex that dumped you and found someone else... and magically, they realized the person they really want is YOU? Or am I foolish enough to believe in a couple months down the road (if his relationship fails...), he'll remember the amazing times we had and we'll get back together?
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