notredame1234 Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 Recently dated this girl who I had admired from afar for quite some time before asking her out.She went out with me initially I believe after some persuasion from a mutal friend (unknown to me at the time, and not sometime I would have agreed with). I got the impression though that initially she wasn't too keen or playing hard to get, due to the fact that before we went out she was never available when I tried to call her and it took sometime for her to get back to me. Long story short, a few more missed calls and messages later we eventually agree to meet almost 3 weeks after I had intiated contact. Thinking that she was somewhat apprehensive, and not wanting to pressure her I decided to let things take their course and not be overly foward with her, but made an effort to treat her well. The first date went o.k. and we got on quite well but it was real kind of tentative. We decide to meet again at the end of the date but she was non commital as to when and so the dance of missed calls and "call me back" etc. continues. We eventually go out again and this time its much more relaxed and she initiates a kiss at the end of the night. The next date though she actually intiated, and it went real well for the most part. We seemed to get on well, but I was concious of just letting things build. However, When I tried to intiate a kiss she closed her body off so effectively I couldn't but a few minutes later she initiated a kiss. To this point I had been taking things as "playing hard to get" and this kind of fitted in. After we kissed we got to talking and I told her that I liked her and that all we could do at that point was to let things take their course. To this she told me that she wouldn't be able to see me very often to which I said that I was cool with that. Then she said she really valued her freedom at this point and didn't see herself in a relationship and goes into her building real fast without watiting for a response. At that point I take it she is not interested and call her to tell her that we should leave things, she seemed unbothered by it so I guessed that I was right. Guess again lol... Apparently, she was really interested and couldn't see why I called things to a hault?? I am not like second guessing myself as there is only so much chasing you can do with out losing all self-respect and you have to draw a line somewhere... Though my question is can anyone make sense of this behaviour lol??
alphamale Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 put 90% weight on woman's actions and 10% weight on her words...
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