sw Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 I met this woman in Ottawa this spring I am 35 and she is 31 , we talked a bit and were both interestaed in each other and had lots of things in common.She gave me her e mail and phone number. I live in Toronto and she lives in Montreal , so about 5 or 6 hours apart. After talking on the phone for a few weeks she vcame and visited me for 5 days. We had an great time together and couldnt keep our hands off each other. So another month later I visited her and again we couldnt get enough of each other.she tells me how she only has a heart fior one man, I assume this is me. Now3 months go by we still talk regulary but both of us were busy and couldnt visit . So, last weekend I went to visit her .the first day we kissed and held each other and she was very happy to show me her photos and clothes from her recent vacation to Italy.But, the next two days she givess me the cold shoulder untill I ask her whats going on. Since she is avoiding me so much I have nothing to do but spend time on her computer. An msn messenger contact popped up , I noticed a bunch of guys names on her contact lists and I found a previous conversation with her and another guy. They were sending kisses to each other. So I ask her why she is avoiding me and she tells me we are spending too much time togethr and that we are not boyfriedn/girlfriend. I asked her if she was being honest with me and she got mad at me. So told her I liked her and I came to visit her because I want to get to know her better and pursue a relationship ,I never mentioned anything about another guy and I left the next day and havent heard from her since. So, I said all I could say I let her know how I feel about her . Is there anything else I could do or say at this point or should I just move on?I figure if she wants me she will call me and thats about all Ican do is wait and see.
alphamale Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Long distance relationships are a total waste of time. You can't find someone in Toronto, a city of 4 or 5 million people? Come on!
whichwayisup Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 You need to move on. There is no point in chasing her, her actions are showing you what she feels...Sorry.
Rooster_DAR Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 You need to move on. There is no point in chasing her, her actions are showing you what she feels...Sorry. Yup! she is a player and want her cake and whatever else you can name. If I were to guess, she watches Sex and the City and claims she's the most independant women on the planet. Regards,
dropdeadlegs Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 I truly am sorry that you have been hurt. That isn't fun for anyone, especially you. I agree with the other posts. LDR's are hard at best, a waste of time most often. In general, people like what's immediately available. We tend to be allured by that which is most easily attainable. I'm thnking of a better analogy, but can'y put my fingers on it. Again, I'm sorry she led you on, but I would let her go.
Author sw Posted November 11, 2006 Author Posted November 11, 2006 Thanks, i agree LDR's are a waste of time,and i reluctantly got involved with her. That's the part that bugs me the most is that she's the one who pursued me. Montreal is such a cool city and I have always wanted to live there and learn french , so i though I'd give it a shot.
alphamale Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 Montreal is such a cool city pompous french-canadians!
alphamale Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 I don't like Les Habs. ha hahah ha ah.....Quebec should ceceed so that the US can invade it and make it our 51st state
whichwayisup Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 Feel free, take 'em. I don't think the rest of Canada will mind much!
Author sw Posted November 11, 2006 Author Posted November 11, 2006 ha hahah ha ah.....Quebec should ceceed so that the US can invade it and make it our 51st state I dont like the Habs either,but what would you guys want with a bunch of chain-smoking poutine eating , pompous french Canadians.
Guest Posted November 25, 2006 Posted November 25, 2006 I dont like the Habs either,but what would you guys want with a bunch of chain-smoking poutine eating , pompous french Canadians. *ahem* My LDR boyfriend is from Quebec. Just keep talking. I dare you. =P But, really, relationships aren't all like that. LDRs are NOT a waste of time, you just have to be careful. I'm sorry that yours ended that way, SW, but don't think that all of them are like that. If the person you meet is trustworthy, then everything will work out, trust me. If you find someone else online, DON'T hold back because of past relationships. I've had a bad experience with an ex, but I didn't let that stop me from loving my LDR right now. And, I've never been happier.
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