Guest Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 I take the train to work and something exciting happened this week. On Monday there was this girl that was seated in front of me. She turned back and looked at me once. I initially brushed it aside. But then it became very evident that she was turning back to look at me when she did it the second time. By the end of the journey she had turned back and looked at me 7 times lol... On Tuesday I sat right next to her. She was sleeping on and off throughout the journey. But the thing is she turned her head towards me and closed her eyes and started sleeping. After a while when I accidentally turned I saw that she was awake and looking at me. Then she slightly brushed her arms on mine twice... When she finally woke up fully I spoke to her and introduced myself. On Wednesday I was seated right behind her and I once again noticed something strange. She kept looking back and appeared to be searching.. Finally when we were about to get down she once again turned back searching and I was standing there.. right behind. She gave a big smile and left. Tursday I didn't see her. Today I again sat next to her. She was sleeping on and off so i cud talk only every now and then... at one point i asked her "you want to meet for coffee sometime?" and she replied "yeah definitely... i have a busy schedule... but yeah we will definitely meet..". And then she started sleeping again but I noticed something strange. Her eyes were closed but she was smiling now.... she had such a big grin on her face... My question is -> do you think this girl might be interested in going for a date with me OR this could only be a friendly thing? I have been burnt very very badly by a similar experience in the past where I thought the girl was giving all the right signs only to know that she liked me only as a friend. I don't want to make any more mistakes.. So plz give me your opinion. Thanks.
Sand&Water Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 Guest, I see, normal citizens, doing this on the train everyday. However, not excessively so -like the woman in your story. Are you an adolescent? [More specifically, How old are you?] Do you think this girl might be interested in going for a date with me OR this could only be a friendly thing? No one knows for sure. The evidence, and information presented in your story, I would say she is interested. You, did, ask her a simple and direct question. She responded in a positive manner. Thus, she is interested. Go have coffee with her. She will, indefinitely hint, to you her thoughts. [Prospect For Round Two] Good Luck, Sand&Water
Guest Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 Guest, I see, normal citizens, doing this on the train everyday. However, not excessively so -like the woman in your story. Are you an adolescent? [More specifically, How old are you?] Do you think this girl might be interested in going for a date with me OR this could only be a friendly thing? No one knows for sure. The evidence, and information presented in your story, I would say she is interested. You, did, ask her a simple and direct question. She responded in a positive manner. Thus, she is interested. Go have coffee with her. She will, indefinitely hint, to you her thoughts. [Prospect For Round Two] Good Luck, Sand&Water Thanks. There is a reason for my confusion. She did say 'yeah definitely' when I asked for coffee.... But she did something odd right after that. she said she had to sleep. Here is the entire conversation: Me: do you want to meet for coffee sometime? Her: yeah sure.. i have a busy schedule.. but there r many coffee places around.. we will meet.. where do u work? Me: i work at <location>. so whenever you are free we can meet for coffee Her: yeah definitely... i have a busy schedule... but yeah we will definitely meet.. i am sorry to boot you out but i got to sleep. She was sleeping on and off even before i asked for coffee... but I do find it odd for her to say that she wanted to sleep. And of course she closed her eyes and was smiling big time.
caring guy Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 Jeez mate, she's well into you, the sleeping thing is just her making you wait, but the big grin shows it all. This is how i tend to meet girls. I looked ata girl at bus stop 3 times, then on the bus 3 times, we both got off at the same stop & she was grinning, i said 'whats up', she said 'nothing', i said 'i'd been looking at you on bus & thought you were beautiful', 'you wanna go for a drink'. We did, it was so exciting. We;ve dated 6 times, but have had an issue as you could see in my post. I;m sure she's into you, but watch out for those head games, i hate them, maybe the sleep thing is a tease! & if she does this more in dates, plays games, beware!! cg
hindsfeet Posted November 14, 2006 Posted November 14, 2006 Good thing .... dude she's into you bad thing .... she is either shy, into headgames, or maybe niether of those and seriously tired when she is on train and needs some sleep. bad part is it is in your court to find out. nothing wrong at all with pursuing it. just with any relationship guard yourself. -hindsfeet
Guest Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 Good thing .... dude she's into you bad thing .... she is either shy, into headgames, or maybe niether of those and seriously tired when she is on train and needs some sleep. bad part is it is in your court to find out. nothing wrong at all with pursuing it. just with any relationship guard yourself. -hindsfeet Ok guys I got my answer today... she is not interested! So i saw her on the train for the past two days but I just said "Hi how are you?"... Today this is what happened: Me: "Hi how are you?" She: "I am good" Me: "How does your schedule look like today? Would you like to meet for coffee today?" She: "Actually today I am busy.. have lot of meetings... we will do it some other time" Me: "So you want to do tomorrow or on Friday?" She: "Well... I am a bit busy... I am also going to be out of town. I am seeing you on the train every day so we will probably meet some time" Me: "Oh you are going out of town... Can I get your email?" She: "Yeah... actually can you give me your contact details? ..... " At this point I knew for sure that she is not interested. But I gave my info and left... I didn't even say 'bye' or 'see you'... I just wrote my info on the piece of paper she gave and left. I really don't know why she was behaving the way she did.... But you know what? I am so glad that I came to know about what is going on... I asked her for coffee and she is too busy. She is not interested. I got my answer... now I can move on to someone else instead of wasting time with this girl.
Guest Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 Anybody want to tell whether I did something wrong? May be I asked her too soon? Should I have waited?? It looked like she was interested and I asked her for coffee... so I am not sure what could have possibly gone wrong...
hindsfeet Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 id definitely move on. dont write her off thougg. keep in mind your a stranger. she may just be being cautious. you dont know what her past experiences are. id take it for what it is. a cute girl is eye-ing you on the train. enjoy it. flirt. i think im gonna go try a train ride myself -hindsfeet
Guest Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 Okay I am not hoping for anything but just wanted to say that I took her response very personally and thought she was brushing me off... Actually it looks like she really is busy and she really is going out of town. I didn't see her on the train today. Yesterday when I asked "How about tomorrow or Friday?" she replied "I will be out of town" and I thought she was giving an excuse... Well I am not going to ask her once again.... its upto her after she gets back. But looks like she really meant what she said...
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