unbreakable Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Hi guys, My husband just told me yesterday that he thinks we should get divorced. Our marriage has been troubled for a long time, but I thought we still had a shot, he doesn't. Ok, I can acsept that. I'm very upset but I think in that regard, well I was handling the news pritty good. Bouts of crying, but being logical about it... But I'm totaly freaking out today. I thought he was going to help me start my own buisness. I've been the stay at home mom all these years, and got literaly no other thing going for me. He said yesterday to, that of course he was going to help me becuase he loves me... But today, today is a different story. I called him and asked him what should I be resurching, what should I brush up on, before he takes the time to teach me. And hes' acting like he doesn't even want to be bothered! This hurts so much. More then even the devorice, because I'm not to suprised about that. But I just feel like, ok, after all of these years, now I get thrown to the wolves. Like he doesn't feel like he wants to help, never the less should help. Like it's all on me and all my falt that I'm not yet capible to support a household! I'm so pissed, and upset, so hurt. I thought we were going to be ok being divoirced, meaning I thought we could still help eachother and be friends, we've been together since we were very very young. And I'm just really suprised. I mean we both made choices and sacrifices, but mine ment me, myself getting put on the back burner. And now that he doesn't want this marriage anymore, now all of that ment nothing? I just don't understand. I would think he would realize that what I did for our family was valuable, and that of course I need a push start. I would think he would want to help me a little because I was a good wife, and the mother of his kids. I'm really not understanding where this is comeing from. Like , well , it's your responsibility to figure out what your going to do... Ok, true... But what about compashion, or a helping hand. I'm more hurt by this feeling of ambandentment emotionaly, like, he really doesn't care. That really hurts, and I would never have that mintality tward him. I'm totaly freaking because I want to be able to provide a nice life for my kids too, and well I just feel screwed over, by someone I still love. And I'm hurting alot, and I guess I need a support system... Thanks for listening UB (oh I have a spelling handicape, lol, sorry, I type fast too which doesn't help)
dgiirl Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 UB, first of all, HUGE HUGS. Being abandoned hurts like hell, and it sounds like you are being abandoned! Keep posting here. There's lot's of people who can offer a shoulder to cry on. You mentioned that you want to start a home business but are not sure what you should research on. Maybe if you describe that in more detail, someone here might be able to offer some advice. In the meantime, search goggle on how to start your own business and go to the library and read some books on the topic. At the same time, you might want to pick up a few books on relationships and/or self-help books. I found it comforting to occupy my time with self help books. It made me realize I wasnt alone. And you are not alone! There are a lot of wonderful people on this forum who have stood in your shoes and can help you along this journey.
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