Guest Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 I suspect my boyfriend is cheating. He's in another country on business and I have not been with him since the summer. He calls me routinely but sometimes I feel like things aren't adding up correctly and feel that he is cheating on me. I have no access to phone records or the ability to follow him. I've asked him straight out and he will not deny other than to say things like "focus on the future" or "you're nuts!" or "you're thinking too much!" But he never comes out and says "no" or "I would never do that to you" or "I'm in love with you and no one else". The clues are time frames I cannot get him and him be overly excited to do outside activities (IE: bowling or something). His excitement seems a little to much for these activities and I think to myself that I would only be that excited if there were someone at these activities. He talks about women and sometimes I get uncomfortable about the things he's saying. Like one time he told me that this one woman was acting like she was attracted to him and he was wondering if she really was. Why would he care unless he was attracted to her in return. If he's cheating on me, I want to tell him to get lost, but he does not own up to it and makes me feel guilty for asking. Please someone give me a good idea and how I can catch him or vindicate him and end the wondering. I would really appreciate it!
memorex258 Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 I don't think you can actually prove it or not. So all you can do is trust his answer.
annee Posted November 22, 2006 Posted November 22, 2006 I can understand how you feel. i am also in the same situation. Actually i am married to a man who lives on a different continent and has suddebly gotten real close to this woman. he spends three days out of the week with her and tells me she wants to have sex with him but he has refused. i am finding it terribly hard to believe he has not done it because he still sees her a lot and gets drunk in her house when the two of them are alone. he keeps promising not to have sex with anyone but my instincts tell me its just to stop ME from having sex with anyone. i am pretty worried about this but we have two children and i dont want to ruin their lives. he is the only dad they know and i love them very much. We made plans to live together cos we have been doing the ld thing for three and a half years. Suddenly he thinks it will be too expensive to have us over and will put pressure on him financially. I saw red. i am still in the relationship but now i have psyched myself that he might leave anytime soon(not an optimist huh) and i am working hard to buy a house for myself and the kids. You dont have major commitments like marriage and kids. So tell him how you feel honestly and dont do it over the phone you need visual cues. if your instincts are still nagging please try to move on or move in together.
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