theadventure50120 Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 I'm writing this to remind myself to , as i was going to do it again today before i stopped myself and thought. When your in NC do not phone the ex no matter how much you want to. I had a 5minute moment where i did , and to achieve what? Nothing. I had the ex where i wanted her , following me and checking up on me. Then i just lost it for 5mins of the day and phoned her. Because she went all depressed. I didn't get no anger from her but it achieved nothing. The only thing that it helped me with was the fear of her coldness , it's gone. She was more nervous. I'm now 2days in NC , where i would have been around 20 lol. I guess i was just on cloud nine , was bored for the day and decided to do something stupid. I treat NC like when i try to quit smoking , you build up the days and don't want to start again. That's how i see it. Now i'm sitting here thinking why did i do it , at the time you think what harm can it do , but when you do it you realize. I don't feel like i have to start again (i did it before , i can do it again) but i do feel like why the hell did i do it. Now i'm wanting the days to go by quick to get back where i was. I won't be as lucky this time seeing her two weeks running out drinking , that was like a dream and i got her both times. Now i must go back into NC and wear off that neediness. I am going for a drink with this girl through next week , i don't know what will happen. DON'T PHONE THE EX , LISTEN TO PEOPLE HERE. I DIDN'T , NOW I WISH I DID. IT ACHIEVES NOTHING.
mrbeantown Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Were you dumped or did you dump her? I am almost in the same situation. My ex of 6 years contacted me through myspace a few days ago. read my story for more info: http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t103758/ I want to respond sooooo badly but I know I shouldnt. It seems selfish that I shouldnt respond especially now that I know she is not "dating" the other guy and that she is going through some tough times (she started smoking cigarettes again). I feel like I should be a friend to her now but I know it will hurt me accepting that that is it.... just friends!! WHY WAS I BORN A NICE GUY??!!!
Kamille Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 LOL. Totally. NC is like quitting smoking. And like smoking, the way to get there is to forgive yourself for lapsing and quit again. You'll last longer this time. Keep quitting.
Fun2BMe Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 So does that mean you had left your gf and don't want her calling you any more? Otherwise I don't get what your tactic is if you do NC then now that she's calling you and wanting you for you to not want to get back to her.
PoshPrincess Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 LOL. Totally. NC is like quitting smoking. And like smoking, the way to get there is to forgive yourself for lapsing and quit again. You'll last longer this time. Keep quitting. I agree. Just see every day as another milestone. Mine has been four weeks now and I feel really proud of myself to have come this far as my ex and I were on/off for over four months before that. It really DOES get easier and the NC makes you feel empowered, especially when they contact you and you ignore them! Keep up the good work!
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 Scuderia - I know what your saying , bombarding me with insults everywhere etc. I made a mistake , i learnt from it, and when i say i'm going into NC i mean it. I'm meeting a girl tomorrow for a drink , i hope that i like her. People make mistakes all the time , panic and make the wrong choice. I'll not be making them mistakes again. I'll not be posting my situation again. I'm going to focus on this new girl. I have liked this girl a long time , but we both had someone. Nows the chance. I have done nothing wrong in the past 2days , ex is deleted from everything. I can't even attempt anything then. Date tomoro , that's all i'm bothered about. Bye.
scuderia Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Scuderia - I know what your saying , bombarding me with insults everywhere etc. I made a mistake , i learnt from it, and when i say i'm going into NC i mean it. I'm meeting a girl tomorrow for a drink , i hope that i like her. People make mistakes all the time , panic and make the wrong choice. I'll not be making them mistakes again. I'll not be posting my situation again. I'm going to focus on this new girl. I have liked this girl a long time , but we both had someone. Nows the chance. I have done nothing wrong in the past 2days , ex is deleted from everything. I can't even attempt anything then. Date tomoro , that's all i'm bothered about. Bye. thats the spirit dude! now go n get this other chick n make us all here proud of u! You can do it!
lolablue Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Have a good time tomorrow and stay strong.
Author theadventure50120 Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 thats the spirit dude! now go n get this other chick n make us all here proud of u! You can do it! No prob , and thanks for kicking me up the backside. It helped. I just went off on one , i'm ill , emotions and temper all over. Not be doing it again , I'll be following the rules from now. I'll be inviting her back here if it goes well because i'll be home alone
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