Should I Make A Move?

[TheSilentType]

FYI, This is quite long....

 

So there's this girl who works in the same building where I work. She works in a different area than mine, and so I don't really have much interaction with her. I don't know even know her name.

 

I first came to know of her when I was waiting in a common area for a machine to finish running. I saw her in passing. I thought she was quite pretty...she definitely has a cute face. But being that I was at work and that my mind was focused more on the tasks that I had at hand, I didn't give much thought to her other than to notice she was pretty. I've only been here for a few weeks, so I've been more worried about getting done with my tasks than anything else. It's been pretty hectic to say the least.

 

Anyways, after that initial moment I saw her, I saw her a few more times in the common area. We haven't said a word to each other; only glances.

I've also seen her on occasion walking past my work area to get to the common printer and other parts of the building.

 

The thing is, lately I've been thinking that there may be something more going on. While at first, I only occasionally saw her walk by, now I notice her walking by much more frequently past my work area. There's another parallel route of equal distance to the printer through the hallway outside, but she prefers to take the route that goes through my work area

 

Also, one time I happened to arrive at the same time as her and her friend were to the door to enter the common area. She stopped and instead of going with us into the common area, she went to the bathroom. But before she went I could see her friend directly in front of me look at her and smile.

 

But the thing that really motivated me to post this is something she did today. I had some data that I needed to look at, so I stopped by the dining area just outside the common area to have some quiet so that I could look over my papers. After a few minutes, I see her walking down the hallway and approaching the door to enter the common area and ultimately to reach her workspace. That is the route she usually takes to enter her workspace. She didn't see me until the point that she reached the door. Then I notice that she hesitated, and instead of going through the door like she normally does, she instead decides to walk through the hallway to reach her workspace, thereby walking right in my line of sight (i.e. she is walking perpendicular to my direct line of sight).

 

There's just something that tells me that she wanted me to look at her. I was the only one there. Just me sitting there and her walking by.

 

I did look at her without being obvious. In fact, I was kind of staring at her...and her ass since she was wearing some hot pants with some letters on it and I was curious as to what it spelt She is a real cute girl and I love the way she dresses.

 

I'm not sure what I should do. I would definitely like to get to know this girl better. Something just tells me that she would be a fun person to know.

 

But I don't know whether I just misreading things or just reading too much into this situation. Upto this point, I have been continually downplaying any thoughts in my head....but her passing by me today started making me think...

 

I'm thinking maybe I should give it a few months and see how she acts around me.

 

If it does seem like there is some interest on her level, how should I approach her?

 

I only see in her passing, whether it is in the hallway, the common area, or when she walks past my workspace to get to the printer. I can't really go to her workspace since I really don't have any business there.

 

Sorry for the length. But if you have any suggestions, I'd like to hear it.

[Pyro]

FYI, This is quite long....

 

So there's this girl who works in the same building where I work. She works in a different area than mine, and so I don't really have much interaction with her. I don't know even know her name.

 

I first came to know of her when I was waiting in a common area for a machine to finish running. I saw her in passing. I thought she was quite pretty...she definitely has a cute face. But being that I was at work and that my mind was focused more on the tasks that I had at hand, I didn't give much thought to her other than to notice she was pretty. I've only been here for a few weeks, so I've been more worried about getting done with my tasks than anything else. It's been pretty hectic to say the least.

 

Anyways, after that initial moment I saw her, I saw her a few more times in the common area. We haven't said a word to each other; only glances.

I've also seen her on occasion walking past my work area to get to the common printer and other parts of the building.

 

The thing is, lately I've been thinking that there may be something more going on. While at first, I only occasionally saw her walk by, now I notice her walking by much more frequently past my work area. There's another parallel route of equal distance to the printer through the hallway outside, but she prefers to take the route that goes through my work area

 

Also, one time I happened to arrive at the same time as her and her friend were to the door to enter the common area. She stopped and instead of going with us into the common area, she went to the bathroom. But before she went I could see her friend directly in front of me look at her and smile.

 

But the thing that really motivated me to post this is something she did today. I had some data that I needed to look at, so I stopped by the dining area just outside the common area to have some quiet so that I could look over my papers. After a few minutes, I see her walking down the hallway and approaching the door to enter the common area and ultimately to reach her workspace. That is the route she usually takes to enter her workspace. She didn't see me until the point that she reached the door. Then I notice that she hesitated, and instead of going through the door like she normally does, she instead decides to walk through the hallway to reach her workspace, thereby walking right in my line of sight (i.e. she is walking perpendicular to my direct line of sight).

 

There's just something that tells me that she wanted me to look at her. I was the only one there. Just me sitting there and her walking by.

 

I did look at her without being obvious. In fact, I was kind of staring at her...and her ass since she was wearing some hot pants with some letters on it and I was curious as to what it spelt She is a real cute girl and I love the way she dresses.

 

I'm not sure what I should do. I would definitely like to get to know this girl better. Something just tells me that she would be a fun person to know.

 

But I don't know whether I just misreading things or just reading too much into this situation. Upto this point, I have been continually downplaying any thoughts in my head....but her passing by me today started making me think...

 

I'm thinking maybe I should give it a few months and see how she acts around me.

 

If it does seem like there is some interest on her level, how should I approach her?

 

I only see in her passing, whether it is in the hallway, the common area, or when she walks past my workspace to get to the printer. I can't really go to her workspace since I really don't have any business there.

 

Sorry for the length. But if you have any suggestions, I'd like to hear it.

 

Dude, make a move. She could be the overly shy type, but it sounds like she goes out of her way to go through your area, plus you said that her friend turned and smiled at you. Seriously, what do you have to lose? Even if she were to say no, you never hardly have to see her. Make sure you consider everything before getting involved with someone you work with, but I say it couldn't hurt to talk to her. good luck.

[whichwayisup]

Go for it. Just talk to her! Introduce yourself and see how it goes from there.

[TheSilentType]

Dude, make a move. She could be the overly shy type...Seriously, what do you have to lose? Even if she were to say no, you never hardly have to see her. Make sure you consider everything before getting involved with someone you work with, but I say it couldn't hurt to talk to her. good luck.

 

I don't think she's necessarily shy per say, but I have the feeling that she would never verbally let on if she had interest in me. I know that even if she did, I would still probably have to go talk to her. Blah.

 

I initially just wanted to take a wait and see approach with this girl. Give it a few more weeks, maybe a few months. I'm not really in a rush or anything.

 

But now I'm faced with a new problem in that I might try to transfer to a new department in another city. My supervisor is hard to deal with and I often get blamed for things that are beyond my control or not my fault.

 

So this all means that in a few weeks, once I can secure a new position, I might not get the chance to see this girl again. I'm not sure what to do.

 

If I do approach her, how do I go about it...Should I say, "Hi, I've seen you around. My name is TST. What's yours?"

 

Can any ladies give me some tips on what would be a nice way to approach a girl who you don't know? I don't want to scare her by seeming like I'm coming out of nowhere.

[Pyro]

I don't think she's necessarily shy per say, but I have the feeling that she would never verbally let on if she had interest in me. I know that even if she did, I would still probably have to go talk to her. Blah.

 

I initially just wanted to take a wait and see approach with this girl. Give it a few more weeks, maybe a few months. I'm not really in a rush or anything.

 

But now I'm faced with a new problem in that I might try to transfer to a new department in another city. My supervisor is hard to deal with and I often get blamed for things that are beyond my control or not my fault.

 

So this all means that in a few weeks, once I can secure a new position, I might not get the chance to see this girl again. I'm not sure what to do.

 

If I do approach her, how do I go about it...Should I say, "Hi, I've seen you around. My name is TST. What's yours?"

 

Can any ladies give me some tips on what would be a nice way to approach a girl who you don't know? I don't want to scare her by seeming like I'm coming out of nowhere.

 

Don't wait on this. She may take it as though you are shy or you are not interested.

 

The transfer is not for sure, so seize the moment and talk to her.

 

Your approach is perfect. Strike up a conversation and see where it goes from there.

[Sand&Water]

RE:

 

Pull off a sneaky [non-deceitful] run-around type of conversation. Don't be cruelly blunt.

 

The most important aspect of introducing yourself, is to be consciously comfortable with yourself. Avoid fumbling, and mumbling.

 

She will be flattered to hear your voice. Don't fret.

 

Oh, and please -oh god -don't make indirect sexual references to her image/body. Try to seep your mind out of the gutter.

 

Even, IF, you do move away -at least you have her phone number. No pressure, whatsoever.

 

Good Luck,

Sand&Water

[TheSilentType]

RE:

 

Pull off a sneaky [non-deceitful] run-around type of conversation. Don't be cruelly blunt.

 

The most important aspect of introducing yourself, is to be consciously comfortable with yourself. Avoid fumbling, and mumbling.

 

She will be flattered to hear your voice. Don't fret.

 

Oh, and please -oh god -don't make indirect sexual references to her image/body. Try to seep your mind out of the gutter.

 

Even, IF, you do move away -at least you have her phone number. No pressure, whatsoever.

 

Good Luck,

Sand&Water

 

Sand&Water, did you mean cruedly blunt or cruelly blunt? If you meant the latter, then what exactly do you mean by cruelly blunt?

 

And you're absolutely right...it's important not to mumble or fumble my approach. I remember doing that once and I rightfully got rejected. With this girl, I feel a bit more comfortable even though I don't know her...so I think I can be pretty confident...or atleast somewhat so...introducing myself to her.

 

Don't worry, I won't make any sexual references about her. I'm not a crude person. We're both classy people...so I'll approach this situation in a nice manner.

[magichands]

In fact, I was kind of staring at her...and her ass since she was wearing some hot pants with some letters on it and I was curious as to what it spelt She is a real cute girl and I love the way she dresses.

You've got it bad.

[Sand&Water]

RE:

Sand&Water, did you mean cruedly blunt or cruelly blunt?

I wrote cruelly blunt. So I, only, meant cruelly blunt.

 

You are, attempting, to converse with her. As a result, present yourself in a positive manner. Don't slap her point-blank in the face with a direct phrase/statement.

 

It is not a conversation with a physicist. Stating in a dull fashion, "I am conducting an experiment in Quantum Physics and would like your opinion on the energy level required to strip a neutron from a sodium atom." -is not delightful at all.

 

Fundamentally, your face expressions are a vessel to deliver your message. A serious, annoying face, will only down-play your chances of acceptance.

 

I am really out-there, today. Think about such instances.

 

Sand&Water

[TheSilentType]

Just an update...

 

Today I finally spoke with this girl.

 

She came by with her friends and they all sat next to me while I was eating lunch; She sat the closest to me and it seemed like her proximity was intentional.

 

Although she came and sat next to me, she was still too shy to say anything to me first. That was absolutely fine...she met me half way...so I was ready to meet her half way. Plus I didn't want her to do all the initiating. So after chatting up her friends (some of who I didn't know and was also curious to know better), I began speaking with her more one on one. I guess she was waiting for me to do that, because although she was shy to introduce herself first...she seemed glad when I started talking with her. Our conversation was very simple and open...and we both did a lot of smiling.

 

Anyways, it's good that I can finally call her by her name and smile when I pass by her without feeling weird about it...we'll see where this goes

[Trialbyfire]

Well done. It sounds like you managed to meet her by doing it the way that made you comfortable.

 

For some reason your thread made me smile and made my day.