neci Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Hi again guys... Some of you may have read my previous threads here, probably most of you havent but it doesnt matter. Basically I was with this girl and she broke up with me, it was for pretty vague and nebulous reasons and I think she is just confused at the moment, shes a very strange person, I know she hasnt left me for somoene else, she is still single (we broke up about 4 weeks ago). I wish I had fallen for someone simpler but sadly thats just the way it goes, I really love this girl, call it my first love I suppose, ive never felt this way about anyone, or any break up in the past (im 19 FYI) and its just terrible. When we broke up she went away on Holiday for three weeks so it was like forced NC, i missed her terribly but I managed to get through it. Since shes been back we have been talking as friends again, we were very close before we started our relationship but its so hard for me... I love her so much, and talking is just like being prisoner, much as I love talking to her, I mean im just living on a prayer that for some reason she will change her mind, when I know it will not happen.. At least not without somthing new happening... (see im still in denial?) A few days ago I decided to take the advice of a good friend of mine, he told me to just cut her off, just go ahead and do it, this was really late at night after she had gone off to bed,we had been talking earlier. But I decided to just take my friends advice (I'd been told by others to try it but I really value this guys opinion and he pushed me over the edge) So I block her on MSN and decide not to answer calls or talk online or anything... So. Its been three days and this is so impossibly hard I feel like im going to snap . What do I do in this situation, is it best to just stay strong and resist the urge to talk to her? What do I do if she does try to reach out to me... Is this getting me anywhere? I just dont know... Its just horrible knowing shes just there.... Thers not really a point to this post I suppose, I just want to know what you guys think the best course of action is. I see it like this when I break it down... 1) I keep it up and somewhere in the distant future get over it. 2) We start talking after a while and end up as Friends again 3) She realises she misses me and gets in contact (happy dance time) I just think sometimes, you know what? I _love_ this girl, wtf am i doing, I cant give up.. But another part of me just wants to heal, its too painful... Sigh why are the best things in life so hard Anyways.. I just want some thoughts on all of this, Im sure youve heard it a million times before but if you could humour me and give a guy some advice it would be much apprieciated. Thanks
Author neci Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 40 views and no one has anything for me? Anything!
miss snoopy Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 No contact is good but I don't understand the purpose of blocking her. Can't you just pretend you're offline? Blocking her looks childish and may push her away. NC is about not emailing, texting etc in the hope the other person changes their mind. It's about giving them space from you (they need it, that's why they left you) and giving yourself time and space to heal. And if the OP is going to come back they need that time away from you. Don't expect her to automatically come back anyway despite NC, maybe this is it, you're still young with your life ahead of you!
iceman44 Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 The previous post was right, you are very young. You have a long life to live, now I know you are hurting.Try the no contact and see what happens.I tried it and it drove me crazy, I had to contact my ex, she was very receptive, and now we are talking.But I am not going to act like I did before with her.Enjoy life try the no contact and if she doesn't contact you, I know its easy for me to say, but move on.There are a lot of nice young girls out there
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