jester2trife Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 My girl and I of 6 months had been becoming more distant over the past few weeks. She was always calling me and always wanted to be with me. Lately, the calls have slowed down greatly and we havent been spending alot of time together. Its been taking its toll on me, so I confronted her. She is overly stressed with life in general. She hates her job, and wants another one badly. She has money troubles, thats also having an affect on her. She likes to deal with her problems alone and not to really share them. She says its hard because she is still very much in love with me, but she cant really give me what I need right now because of the all of the other factors. We ammicably decided to spend time away from each other hoping to get things in order. She said she doesnt want this, but feels its the only way. I told her that I didnt want to be together if it was going to make me feel like crap and always be the one putting in the effort. Its not really a 'break', its more along the lines of it being over, at least for now. It hurts, without a doubt, but Ive been in more relationships than her and can deal with it. Even if it hurts like Hell. I really hope she finds a medium and we can work this out. But if we dont, Ill be ok in time. Just wanted to share and get some insight from others. Thanks for the ear....
Mythical Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 My girl and I of 6 months had been becoming more distant over the past few weeks. She was always calling me and always wanted to be with me. Lately, the calls have slowed down greatly and we havent been spending alot of time together. Its been taking its toll on me, so I confronted her. She is overly stressed with life in general. She hates her job, and wants another one badly. She has money troubles, thats also having an affect on her. She likes to deal with her problems alone and not to really share them. She says its hard because she is still very much in love with me, but she cant really give me what I need right now because of the all of the other factors. We ammicably decided to spend time away from each other hoping to get things in order. She said she doesnt want this, but feels its the only way. I told her that I didnt want to be together if it was going to make me feel like crap and always be the one putting in the effort. Its not really a 'break', its more along the lines of it being over, at least for now. It hurts, without a doubt, but Ive been in more relationships than her and can deal with it. Even if it hurts like Hell. I really hope she finds a medium and we can work this out. But if we dont, Ill be ok in time. Just wanted to share and get some insight from others. Thanks for the ear.... Don't you wish you knew what ppl were thinking. See your situation is tough who knows, she could be too busy with all the stress and everything that you mentioned but I know when I am like that which I am going through a lot of tough thigns right now i want my boy there for me and someone I can talk to about everything. Maybe she isn't like me though.... COuld she be not interested making excuses but too scared to tell you?
Author jester2trife Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 Nah, Im pretty sure shes telling the truth. Shes a good girl whos always honest with me and everyone else. Im the beat-around-the-bush one in the relationship. Shes just someone who closes up and keeps to herself. Which is tough for me.... xXx
Mythical Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 Nah, Im pretty sure shes telling the truth. Shes a good girl whos always honest with me and everyone else. Im the beat-around-the-bush one in the relationship. Shes just someone who closes up and keeps to herself. Which is tough for me.... xXx I see, ok than for now I think you should just give her, her space and hoepfully she will come to you when she is ready. Maybe if this lasts long though you need to find someone that can open up since you are that type. I know I could never be with someone that closes themselves away. Its not abad thing but not something I could handle
Author jester2trife Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 Yeah, we'll see. Her mother is a huge fan of me and just emailed me telling me she heard (they are real close). She's upset and told me Im there if she needs me. She wants her daughter to be with me and knows how stressed she is. Shes having her come to visit her for thanksgiving and hopes that clears her head. I do love her and want her to be happy, even if its not with me. Im hurting, but not completely devastated. I wish her the best regardless. Absence makes the heart grow fond I guess, because I cant be around as the shoulder to cry on. Its just not fair to me.... xXx
Author jester2trife Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 1 day of NC and it hurts like Hell. I know shes in shambles cause I checked her myspace page. As much as I want her back, I cant go through the cycle again of hot and cold. Things will sort themselves out. But damn, this is hard.... xXx
Author jester2trife Posted November 13, 2006 Author Posted November 13, 2006 Talked to her yesterday for the 1st time since the split. It was cool, just sorta catching up. She said she misses me, and text'd me a bunch of times after the conversation saying it made her sad. Shes saying she misses me everyday and wonders what Im doing all the time, but she still needs to work her things out and whatnot. I wasnt pressuring her at all, I dont want her back unless its right. But I do love and miss her. She said its gonna be cold and wants to drop my sweatshirt off. I told her good, cause shes got some clothes at my house that I want to give her. But then, she says she doesnt want them, she wants to leave them at my house. When I ask her why. she says cause her picking those things up would mean that things are completely over, and she doesnt want that? Can someone explain this to me? xXx
theadventure50120 Posted November 13, 2006 Posted November 13, 2006 When I ask her why. she says cause her picking those things up would mean that things are completely over, and she doesnt want that? Can someone explain this to me? xXx I dunno but my ex left our pics up about 4-5days on her myspace before taking the off and came to get her stuff soon after because i went crazy and pissed her off. But she left some things here (nearly 2 month after) Clearly has made no effort to get them and i couldn't care now. Either she wants to still feel part of your life but not see you so she can adjust , that's what i felt like. Because on the day of the break up i said to her i would get her stuff now and she said i'll get them another day. Or leave her for a while and she might come back. She will have made up her mind when she comes to get her things. When she is ready. Don't bug her though. Atleast your ex is honest and says she misses you.
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