jester2trife Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 My girl and I of 6 months had been becoming more distant over the past few weeks. She was always calling me and always wanted to be with me. Lately, the calls have slowed down greatly and we havent been spending alot of time together. Its been taking its toll on me, so I confronted her. She is overly stressed with life in general. She hates her job, and wants another one badly. She has money troubles, thats also having an affect on her. She likes to deal with her problems alone and not to really share them. She says its hard because she is still very much in love with me, but she cant really give me what I need right now because of the all of the other factors. We ammicably decided to spend time away from each other hoping to get things in order. She said she doesnt want this, but feels its the only way. I told her that I didnt want to be together if it was going to make me feel like crap and always be the one putting in the effort. Its not really a 'break', its more along the lines of it being over, at least for now. It hurts, without a doubt, but Ive been in more relationships than her and can deal with it. Even if it hurts like Hell. I really hope she finds a medium and we can work this out. But if we dont, Ill be ok in time. Just wanted to share and get some insight from others. Thanks for the ear.... Jester
AriaIncognito Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 As much as it won't help to hear it, you both definitely did the right thing for your relationship. Maybe there is hope down the line, when she gets things straightened out and can be a good gf to you, but for right now, you're right, you don't need it. You're better off cutting her loose and letting her deal with her own issues than bogging yourself down with it if she won't let you truly be a part of it and help her. Good luck to you, I'm sure you'll do just fine :-)
Findingmyself Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Jester, I am just like your ex. My life was in ruins, wasn't sure if I wanted to move home. And at any rate, my lack of a good life brought her to the point where she dumped me. Now I have to better my life, and then time will tell. Don't worry, things will work out for the best, just give her the time and space she needs to get better. I support you to the fullest. Good luck.
Author jester2trife Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 Thanks guys...Anything helps xXx
Author jester2trife Posted November 13, 2006 Author Posted November 13, 2006 Talked to her yesterday for the 1st time since the split. It was cool, just sorta catching up. She said she misses me, and text'd me a bunch of times after the conversation saying it made her sad. Shes saying she misses me everyday and wonders what Im doing all the time, but she still needs to work her things out and whatnot. I wasnt pressuring her at all, I dont want her back unless its right. But I do love and miss her. She said its gonna be cold and wants to drop my sweatshirt off. I told her good, cause shes got some clothes at my house that I want to give her. But then, she says she doesnt want them, she wants to leave them at my house. When I ask her why. she says cause her picking those things up would mean that things are completely over, and she doesnt want that? Can someone explain this to me? xXx
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