Hope01 Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 There's a couple of things that really annoy me about my hubby 1. When we go somewhere like to a restaurant, movies, shopping, etc, he's been walking like 10 to 15 yards ahead of me. He gets out of the car and he is practically at the front door (of the restaurant, movies, etc) by the time I get out of the passenger side. It gets very annoying. He started this about a few months ago. Sometimes, I don't even go out with him because of this annoying habit. Could it be because we aren't affectionate that's why he does this? Yes, I have asked him and he just simply replys "I don't know". You have no idea how annoying/irritating that answer is, but he keeps doing it. Any ideas? 2. I've noticed that when we talk on the phone, he's chipper, however when he comes home his tone changes to being annoyed and grumpy. And its not like we are arguing or fighting. I've even mentioned to him that I would rather talk to him on the phone than talk to him at home because his tone changes 360 degrees. Any ideas on why this is? How do I deal with it. When he comes home, I don't even want to talk to him because his tone is grumpy and annoyed. I just don't know what to do or how to deal with it. And again, when I asked him, he either says "I don't know" or "I don't mean to sound that way". Need some advice/suggestions.
Mythical Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 Hope01, My boy tends to do the first thing to, not that often but he does and I just say "wait"!!!! Geese and he just laughs than slows down. HE is "the all might (name)" so thas just the way he is and I know this. Since he hasn't done this from the start im not too sure what could be wrong, but for your second reason, I know when I get home from work there is a good hour where I don't want to talk to anyone and if they do I am so gruggy and short with them. For number one again since yu have brought it up to him and he knows you don't like it why hasn't he stopped? You'd think after knowing it bugged you (if it was for a reason) hed stop so maybe its just the way he is
princessa Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 1. When we go somewhere like to a restaurant, movies, shopping, etc, he's been walking like 10 to 15 yards ahead of me. He gets out of the car and he is practically at the front door (of the restaurant, movies, etc) by the time I get out of the passenger side. It gets very annoying. He started this about a few months ago. Sometimes, I don't even go out with him because of this annoying habit. Could it be because we aren't affectionate that's why he does this? Yes, I have asked him and he just simply replys "I don't know". You have no idea how annoying/irritating that answer is, but he keeps doing it. Any ideas? Mine sometimes walks ahead of me too, and it pisses me offfffff!!!!!!!!!!! BUT!! I found a smart way of dealing with that.. FIRST, I always grab his arm so he can't even go anywhere without me.. hahah Secondly, if he gets away and doesn't notice that I'm behind, I'll just STOP right there, in the middle of the hall / shopping mall / street, whatever, and STAY there until he has to turn around and look for me. That way I get the attention I want, and he gets to wait around the time that I finish walking up to him!
rina_r Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 1. When we go somewhere like to a restaurant, movies, shopping, etc, he's been walking like 10 to 15 yards ahead of me. . Hahahaah, my dad has always been like that - never changed, no matter what my mom did.
Romeo Must Die Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 As far as your hubby walking ahead of you, just whisper quietly to other customers in the store that you are a security guard and you are keeping your eye on a possible shoplifter. Then point at him and say, "If you notice anything suspicious about that guy, let me or the manager know immediately!" and wink at them. Continue following your suspect, discretely.
Mythical Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 Mine sometimes walks ahead of me too, and it pisses me offfffff!!!!!!!!!!! BUT!! I found a smart way of dealing with that.. FIRST, I always grab his arm so he can't even go anywhere without me.. hahah Secondly, if he gets away and doesn't notice that I'm behind, I'll just STOP right there, in the middle of the hall / shopping mall / street, whatever, and STAY there until he has to turn around and look for me. That way I get the attention I want, and he gets to wait around the time that I finish walking up to him! thats hialrious, I do that to!! and than he loooks behind and im standing there all sad lol. sometimes when it really makes me mad i ruuunnn way in front of him!
princessa Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 thats hialrious, I do that to!! and than he loooks behind and im standing there all sad lol. sometimes when it really makes me mad i ruuunnn way in front of him! Heee hee! Try grabbing / holding his arm next time!! It's romantic, easier to walk if you're tired because of the additional support (hahaha), AND that way he will be reminded that you're there too instead of being a DUDE and just focusing on ONE thing at a time (ie current destination)!
Mythical Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 Heee hee! Try grabbing / holding his arm next time!! It's romantic, easier to walk if you're tired because of the additional support (hahaha), AND that way he will be reminded that you're there too instead of being a DUDE and just focusing on ONE thing at a time (ie current destination)! lol unfortunatly my boy doesn't hold hands!! so I can't do that!! (maybe you've seen my post) but id like to
princessa Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 lol unfortunatly my boy doesn't hold hands!! so I can't do that!! (maybe you've seen my post) but id like to I mean hold his ARM.. you know, like in old movies where women all hold their gentlemen by the ARMM..
Mythical Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 I mean hold his ARM.. you know, like in old movies where women all hold their gentlemen by the ARMM.. actually i have done that but it maybe lasts 20 sec than i think he feels uncomfortable, or maybe its just me who think that....who knows....I know he wouldn't be the one to initiate it.....way to macho for that:rolleyes:
princessa Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 actually i have done that but it maybe lasts 20 sec than i think he feels uncomfortable, or maybe its just me who think that....who knows....I know he wouldn't be the one to initiate it.....way to macho for that:rolleyes: Mine used to get uncomfortable with that too!! lol!! Butttttt he doesn't really need to do anything for it, so as long as he doesn't push you away you just hold on to his arm.. then within a couple of months he'll get used to it !! (well hopefully... ) Trust me, my guy is so stubborn, there's absolutely NO WAY to make him do anything "romantic" or whatever.. but somehow he's now used to me holding his arm all the time
Mythical Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 Mine used to get uncomfortable with that too!! lol!! Butttttt he doesn't really need to do anything for it, so as long as he doesn't push you away you just hold on to his arm.. then within a couple of months he'll get used to it !! (well hopefully... ) Trust me, my guy is so stubborn, there's absolutely NO WAY to make him do anything "romantic" or whatever.. but somehow he's now used to me holding his arm all the time I am going to try it today!!!
Author Hope01 Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 Wow. I received an email notification stating that someone has replied to my thread and I thought I was going to have alot of people's advice, but looking at the posts, my thread got a little hijacked. Anyways, getting back to the topic at hand...Can I get more advice/opinions.
Mrs. Emo Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Hi Hope. I had to check your profile to see where you are from. I thought for sure we were married to the same man! Unfortunately, I have no advice or suggestions for you because I haven't been able to solve the problem for myself yet. Sometimes, when he speeds off ahead of me, I'll say, "heeelloooo!". That gets him to stop, then he'll turn around, roll his eyes and say, "what?"
Author Hope01 Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 Hmm someone's grouchy...... *Shrug* Sorry that you think I was grouchy.
Romeo Must Die Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Wow. I received an email notification stating that someone has replied to my thread and I thought I was going to have alot of people's advice, but looking at the posts, my thread got a little hijacked. Anyways, getting back to the topic at hand...Can I get more advice/opinions. What about dressing-up (sexy) when you go out? Wear a miniskirt and high heels when you go to Home Depot.
CynicalP Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 There's a couple of things that really annoy me about my hubby 1. When we go somewhere like to a restaurant, movies, shopping, etc, he's been walking like 10 to 15 yards ahead of me. He gets out of the car and he is practically at the front door (of the restaurant, movies, etc) by the time I get out of the passenger side. It gets very annoying. He started this about a few months ago. Sometimes, I don't even go out with him because of this annoying habit. Could it be because we aren't affectionate that's why he does this? Yes, I have asked him and he just simply replys "I don't know". You have no idea how annoying/irritating that answer is, but he keeps doing it. Any ideas? 2. I've noticed that when we talk on the phone, he's chipper, however when he comes home his tone changes to being annoyed and grumpy. And its not like we are arguing or fighting. I've even mentioned to him that I would rather talk to him on the phone than talk to him at home because his tone changes 360 degrees. Any ideas on why this is? How do I deal with it. When he comes home, I don't even want to talk to him because his tone is grumpy and annoyed. I just don't know what to do or how to deal with it. And again, when I asked him, he either says "I don't know" or "I don't mean to sound that way". Need some advice/suggestions. Hmm.. maybe for number 1 you can buy an adult version of the kiddie lease and give it to him to wear. You can reel him back in if he wanders to far ahead. I am curious why he does this, one reason, I suspect is he really wants to get the get event done and over with as soon as possible so that he can hurry home and lounge around in his boxers on the sofa switching through 101 channels of digital nirvana. As for number 2 my wife does this to me all the time. I call it the home coming false advertisment call. Here you expect to come home to the same pleasant voice only to find a mental body snatcher has possessed your mate. Here I find you must beat a quick retreat to your happy place and leave the horrible monster be. For me it involves lounging around in my boxers on the sofa switching through 101 channels of digital nirvana. Your experience may vary.
Author Hope01 Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 Hi Hope. I had to check your profile to see where you are from. I thought for sure we were married to the same man! Unfortunately, I have no advice or suggestions for you because I haven't been able to solve the problem for myself yet. Sometimes, when he speeds off ahead of me, I'll say, "heeelloooo!". That gets him to stop, then he'll turn around, roll his eyes and say, "what?" When I was reading your post, I was laughing so loud, my hubby asked me "what's so funny". Needless to say, I didn't answer.
whichwayisup Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 I'll say, "heeelloooo!". That gets him to stop, then he'll turn around, roll his eyes and say, "what?" Just say, Hey roomie! See how he reacts!
KnowHowLoveFeels Posted November 11, 2006 Posted November 11, 2006 There's a couple of things that really annoy me about my hubby 1. When we go somewhere like to a restaurant, movies, shopping, etc, he's been walking like 10 to 15 yards ahead of me. He gets out of the car and he is practically at the front door (of the restaurant, movies, etc) by the time I get out of the passenger side. It gets very annoying. He started this about a few months ago. Sometimes, I don't even go out with him because of this annoying habit. Could it be because we aren't affectionate that's why he does this? Yes, I have asked him and he just simply replys "I don't know". You have no idea how annoying/irritating that answer is, but he keeps doing it. Any ideas? My H is not like that. But when he's pissed off with me, he'd sometimes walk a yard ahead of me. Several times, I'd just turn around and walk in the other direction or I'd just stand there. When he notices that I didn't tag behind hiim, he'd come back but he'd be more pissed. Well, I'd tell hiim that I lost interest in going where we'd plan and that I'd meet with him in this spot in 1 hour. (I wish that would do the trick!) But my H is not the kind of guy who likes to go places by himself, so he'd hold my hand and pull me along. 2. I've noticed that when we talk on the phone, he's chipper, however when he comes home his tone changes to being annoyed and grumpy. And its not like we are arguing or fighting. I've even mentioned to him that I would rather talk to him on the phone than talk to him at home because his tone changes 360 degrees. Any ideas on why this is? How do I deal with it. When he comes home, I don't even want to talk to him because his tone is grumpy and annoyed. I just don't know what to do or how to deal with it. And again, when I asked him, he either says "I don't know" or "I don't mean to sound that way". Need some advice/suggestions. Yeah, I've encountered this somewhat often as well. I've asked him this, and he'd say that when he comes home, he expected to come home to a sparkly clean home with the kids playing nicely and me busy cleaning. So.... know that it is not your fault that your H comes home grumpy. He just has waaaay toooo high expectations for a wife. (His problem, not yours.) I don't know what to do about this. But sometimes, on the phone (my H always phones home when he's on the way home), I'd tell him to keep that good mood when he's home. I'd let him know that the house is a bit disorganized in advance. That seems to do the trick sometimes. But sometimes, men are just grumpy. They can't soothe themselves. And they like to throw tantrums, like a little boy. If you have kids, you'd know what I mean.
CynicalP Posted November 15, 2006 Posted November 15, 2006 But sometimes, men are just grumpy. They can't soothe themselves. And they like to throw tantrums, like a little boy. If you have kids, you'd know what I mean. I think that's a two way street there. There are plenty of times I come home to Mrs. Grouchie and it's no fun. Sounds like your Hubby needs to leave his crummy work day at the front door and not take it our on his wife and kids. It's a common problem one that effects both sexes equally.
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