so lost Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 i havent spoken to my ex in 5 weeks and i accidently forwaded him an email coz i forgot he was in my contacts.....well he replyed with this what does he mean? just wants to be my friend? i havent replyed hi ******* I hope you are well and hope uni is going great.i am not sure if you ment to send me this email or you did by mistake,but i hope u r happy these days. I also know ur birthday is coming up soon.. I am Well,working hard *****
Walk Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 I don't think there's anything too mystic about it. He hopes your doing well and that you're happy. And he's wondering if you meant to get in contact with him and used the bulk forward as an excuse to get back in touch. Or if it was really an accident, and he no longer exists in your thoughts. I think it's a little bit of an ego thing. (Most people want to believe people they loved still think of them fondly and want to talk with them) A little that he's curious how you're doing. And a small suggestion that he's open to talking to you again. Yet, he's worded it in such a way that he's given himself an out if you never respond. Do you want to get back together with him? Or be friends with him? How do you feel about him now? Personally, I'd write back with a kind of humorous email telling him I goofed on the bulk mail forward. Give a really short sentence saying uni is going good, you're happy. Wish him the best in his life, and sign off.
Author so lost Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 i still do love him and want to be with him.... i was thinking of just replying and saying I didn't realize I had sent that message to you! I'm sorry for that something short and dry but would this push him away if there is a chance for us??
Author so lost Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 and why would he metion my birthday?
freckles3131 Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 something short and dry but would this push him away if there is a chance for us?? It won't push him away, if anything it will pique his interest......trust me. Been there. Done that. I'm on my second chance. (one year anniversary in 3 wks) I analyzed every little morsal and scrap I got. I found little ways to maintain contact. (accidental emails/accidentally bumping into him) THEN.....I did NC. and lo and behold 4 weeks later...(after showing my self worth, letting him actually miss me, etc....) He came to me with the I miss you, I need you, I want you, etc....and I told myself it would take those words and NOTHING LESS to even entertain thoughts of "us".................you should heed this advice. Do not accept scraps, do not accept little emails with "hidden messages" if a man truly wants you, wants to be with you, they will NOT beat around the bush. And you need to give him a chance to miss you, go find yourself, keep busy, fall off the face of the planet and if he loves you he will find you and let you know.....straight up! No wishy washy cryptic messages.....
freckles3131 Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 I think he is testing you. He wants to see if you are missing him and as soon as you show him that you are......you won't get nothing. His curiousity will be satiated. Now if you show you are happy, healthy, in a good place....he is going to miss the heck out of you.
Author so lost Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 why would he mention my birthday tho? what does that have to do with anything.....
phyrespryte Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 why would he mention my birthday tho? what does that have to do with anything..... Because it's coming up and maybe he thinks you sent him that forward because you want him to send you a present. Seriously though. If he meant more by that...then he would've written more.
Author so lost Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 i suppose then....so you think he wont get back with me? should i reply to his email?
princessa Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 Look it really depends on how your guy is. How he reacts to things, and how your relationship used to be. Some people will take it as a sign saying "get out of my life" if you just reply with something cold saying "sorry I didn't realize I sent you the email". Another guy who doesn't have that much pride will maybe budge after a couple of months if he still wants to get back together and come back saying he missed you. It all depends on the guy. Personally I think you should reply to his email even if it's out of courtesy, to ask how he's doing also. But I wouldn't reply with a cold "sorry I didnt know you were on the email list". To me that's just plain cold, and would tell me that the person seriously doesn't want to be contacted.
Fun2BMe Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 I agree with the others that you have to reply that you sent it not knowing he was on the list, then add a quick you're glad he's doing well and so are you type of a comment and leave it at that for him to make the next move. If you don't reply he'll think you purposely sent it 'on accident' and that you're playing games with him, leaving him hanging not to get any type of explanation. If you reply with too much into him, it will push him away. He might see that you're mature enough to at the very least develop a cordial occassional email correspondence and who knows where things can go from there. As for your b-day you can comment thanks for remembering or some simple comment to acknowledge it otherwise he might think this was all a trap to have him back for your birthday or to get a present out of him or something.
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