mamasita Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 hi everyone, a few days ago me and a few friends got into a conversation about infidelity.what do u think is the difference between physical infidelity and emotional infidelity?do u think gender has an influence on infidelity.i personally think men show stronger feelings towards physical infidelity,whereas women express that kinda feelings towards emotional infidelity because we are more sensitive. what do u guys think? Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted November 9, 2006 Share Posted November 9, 2006 Being a male, I only have one reasoned opinion to proffer. Male "emotional infidelity" is a very broad term. A man can be in a long term relationship/marriage with a woman he deeply loves and turn to another woman for advice, comfort, an interesting ear without the desire to hurt his mate, or cause her discomfort. If physical contact isn't a part of the second relationship it may be a cathardic, and helpfull working out rough spots in the committed relationship. Men and Women are so different that it's almost impossible at times for a man to "figure out" what's disturbing relationships. In fact you might consider LoveShack itself as a "parter" or taking the place of an "emotional affair" for many here. Women seem to be easy to anger when their "relationship problems" are discussed with others, male or female, unless they are the ones doing it. I'm not completely sure that the term "emotional affair" is an accurate one, unless fantasy's, or intimate exchanges take place. Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 An emotional affair IMHO is one where a partner shares intimate feelings/details of their life. It is a relationship they would not want their mate to know about, nor would they want their mate to have. They usually begin as friendships and cross a line into intimate conversation. Often (though not always) they are on-line. A physical relationship may be inclusive of an emotional one, or may not. I personally don't think either sex is immune to either type of affair, nor is more likely to have either type of affair. Loyalty and honesty are the deciding factors, not gender. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted November 10, 2006 Share Posted November 10, 2006 An emotional affair IMHO is one where a partner shares intimate feelings/details of their life. It is a relationship they would not want their mate to know about, nor would they want their mate to have. They usually begin as friendships and cross a line into intimate conversation. Often (though not always) they are on-line. A physical relationship may be inclusive of an emotional one, or may not. I personally don't think either sex is immune to either type of affair, nor is more likely to have either type of affair. Loyalty and honesty are the deciding factors, not gender. WASNT THAT WHAT I POSTED? (don't know how to use bold)... The exchange of emotional intimacy between the two having an "affair" is the question isn't it? It's a confusing situation. In general when a relationship is under stress, any M/F contact is an added stressor. Getting advice from friends is a bigger problem for males as males often do not relate on those terms. Women can discuss relationship problems with other women with much more ease and confidence. Ah well, such is life. The differences between the sexes stir the pot. Link to post Share on other sites
Guest Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 Being a male, I only have one reasoned opinion to proffer. Male "emotional infidelity" is a very broad term. A man can be in a long term relationship/marriage with a woman he deeply loves and turn to another woman for advice, comfort, an interesting ear without the desire to hurt his mate, or cause her discomfort. If physical contact isn't a part of the second relationship it may be a cathardic, and helpfull working out rough spots in the committed relationship. Men and Women are so different that it's almost impossible at times for a man to "figure out" what's disturbing relationships. In fact you might consider LoveShack itself as a "parter" or taking the place of an "emotional affair" for many here. Women seem to be easy to anger when their "relationship problems" are discussed with others, male or female, unless they are the ones doing it. I'm not completely sure that the term "emotional affair" is an accurate one, unless fantasy's, or intimate exchanges take place. this is CRA, I am not a member but just wanted to express my opinon to people who frequent or have an opinon about this particular BLOG. The same way "Research;REAL LIFE & TRUE/HONEST EXPERIENCES written to share advice/vent/ or n e otha reason for giving 1's thoughts/ experience(s)/feeling(s) & or point(s) across; &/or "real life" &/or written experiences info/signs & or advice 2 other women!) Link to post Share on other sites
silktricks Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 WASNT THAT WHAT I POSTED? . I was responding to the OP, not to you. It could be that what I said was exactly what you posted, (though it wasn't clear to me that what I said was what you were meaning). I was providing input to the OP, not rebuttal to you. Link to post Share on other sites
LakesideDream Posted November 12, 2006 Share Posted November 12, 2006 It seems to me that women have more access to "emotional advice, and support" than men. It is more common for women to share their "feelings" with other women than it is to find men sharing with men. Obviously this is an opinion, based on observation. In todays rapidly "metro-sexual" world this may be changing and I wouldn't have noticed. It's a rough topic. Realisticly I believe "emotional affairs" happen much less frequently than it appears reading LoveShack. Link to post Share on other sites
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