bridget75 Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 I feel a little ridiculous posting, but was hoping for some male perspective. I had a great first date a couple of weeks ago. He texted me when he got home, called me the next day to set up our next date - which we scheduled for a few days later. Date #2 was also fantastic. We kissed and kissed and kissed goodbye. We made tenative plans to see each other the next night, at a party I was attending (it was in his neighborhood; I'd invited him to swing by). He texted me the next day, saying that he was a bit hungover, had to work late, and should probably go home and rest for an out of town trip he was taking the next day. But, he said, if he got bored of work and left early he would def give me a call. He hasn't called since. He did send me an email upon returning from his trip, thanking me for a picture (he ran into one of his fave actors on our 2nd date. I shot a photo with my camera phone) I'd texted, and told me that he had a good time...but was beat and feeling really rundown. I emailed back to him, saying that I'm glad he had fun, and hoped he was able to recover rest-wise. And I asked him a question about his trip. He emailed me a day later, answering my question. In each email, he did not ask about me, nor did he say if/when he'd be in touch. It's only been a week since our last date, but his level of interest seems to have waned considerably, and I find myself wondering if that's that. Guys - would you even bother to email someone you had no interest in seeing again? Is he just being polite in responding?
Sand&Water Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 Reply: 2 dates. Will there be a 3rd? There are, too many, factors at play in the scene. I don't know IF there will be a third date. In spite of the vagueness of his actions/responses, there is one little piece of joy you can take home with you. In other words, you can take home the pleasant experience you had with him. He, promptly, responded to your e-mails -which in etiquette school is considered good. I think you should not correspond with him, anymore. Let him contact you. It is up to him, now. IF he truly wants to pursue you, he will e-mail/call. Good Luck, Sand&Water
MadDog Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 S&W is right on the money. Just sit and wait. If he's interested, he'll continue to pursue you. Lots of times, when it comes to relationships, all you can do is wait and see. Being patient can be hard, can't it? MD
Author bridget75 Posted November 10, 2006 Author Posted November 10, 2006 Thanks for your replies. I haven't heard from him yet. I'm pretty sure I won't...which is a shame. But not the end of the world. I'm just surprised, because there were two great dates, and we had a good rapport. The worst part of this is just the not knowing. "Was it something I did?" "Will I hear from him again?"
rina_r Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 "Was it something I did?" No, probably he is just messed up.Dont develop any complexes because of some jerk.
Green Posted November 10, 2006 Posted November 10, 2006 I'm a guy and I have to say what seemed like 2 great dates to you might have sucked for him. He may just be busy but if hes not called in over a week its probably over.
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