Poetry In Motion Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 is there still a chance or is she just being nice..... Ive only known this girl 2 months we hit it off like we known each other forever....Geez she said how much she loved me and actually wanted me to move in with her....told her family about me and when we would go out tell my friends that i was the one she as been looking for her entire life... i felt them same.... she has a ton of male friends who she would hang out with before me..And she said they were just friends and i belived her....But there are theses two guys she talked about the most..one was a guy she did try and have a relationship before me but they said that they are better of friends...the other is a guy who she said loves her still, and she doesnt want to be with him..But whenever she goes out she runs into him and he still callls.. So i was over at her house and he called right after she was telling me she saw him at this halloween party she went too... i coulndt go cause i was sick....And they talked and what not.. and she said he was going to call the next day and he did...... then she proceeded to talk about the other guy that I mention aobut how this girl came up to her and Said that she thought that and her and him were b/f g/f...Wow what gave her that idea.. she always talk about oh love him he so nice as friend... So i asked her Dont you think you are ledding these guys on by still talking and flirting with them.....She said well if thats the case then im ledding everyone on.... I was like wow she got supper defensive.....then i explain how her talking about other guys made me jealous and blah blah....she didnt like that a bit .... so i decided it would be best if i just go home cuase i was getting mad about all of it...... so i wrote i said i was sorry for my stupid insercurities.ect ect.. And she wrote this back """""I'm sorry I'm so "difficult". But, I don't deserve to be hurt on purpose. I've never intended to hurt you at all. And I really did think that we would work... I guess even hearts can be wrong. I had never doughted the way I felt about you, but your dought in me was enough for the both of us, I guess. I honestly hope that some day you will find the happiness you're looking for. And know, that you have a special place in my heart for always,""""" She said she will call me sometime maybe go out for a beer or something.... is there a chance what do I do she hasnt called in 3 days no text nothing... I love this girl and i think that what we had was very speacial just some minoe issues over my insecurites.... I guess she doesnt want to deal with them she rather just run? I cant believe how 2 people say the love each other so much... the for 1 to just walk away cause of this.......
tdmce Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 She had a low interest level in you and by getting all insecure and not keeping things light and fun you have lowered her interest in you even further. She isn't contacting you, she knows you are very keen on her, so she is keeping you as a backup plan if the other guys have a low interest in her, then you will suddenly find she will contact you wanting to take you out for that beer. If you want to stay in the picture, you need to do NC, talk to other girls, hang out with friends. This will at least demonstrate that she is no longer your main focus and then she may or may not start to wonder why you have lost interest in her. But honestly do you want a girl like this in your life? She doesn't sound like she is ready for a relationship at this stage of her life. So think hard about what sort of girl you really want. It's much better to find a girl that is chasing you at the beginning, that can't get enough of you. It is very hard to raise a girls interest in you once it has been lost. Also stop listening to what this girl says, and start watching her actions. If she is touching you, hugging you, talking to her friends about you, then she is into you and possibly even 'loves you'. But if she just says it, but doesn't show it, then she just is trying not to hurt you.
Author Poetry In Motion Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 Ty you very much for the reply....I will keep up the NC I just trully felt from her that we had such a great connection... She had a low interest level in you and by getting all insecure and not keeping things light and fun you have lowered her interest in you even further. In the beggining she was the one who pursude me... She coulndt get enough of my attention.Like i said i was practcally moving in with her....staying the night every night for 2 weeks straight.....but the last few days I did kinda felt what You said.... But she did tell my close freinds and her family how much she cared for me.... And to just tose that to the side over some minor issues I had.... Just hard to believe, Has to be more to this then i know The last Time i talked to her 3 days ago she said that she didnt want me to break her heart again and that she was on a emotionally rollercoaster ride with me.... lol her...and she said that i need to move on....but i asked how do you move a patch or heart so quick she said hers wasnt.... I guess I just dont understand how women or people in general can say I love you... Then just through it away....
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