cardinalmaninus Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 Hey all. Just seeking advice here... Ill try to make a long story short, but will follow up with details if need be. I have been married to my wife a little over a year, and we have been together for almost 9 years total. Just after we got married, things seemed to change a bit. The night of her bachelorette party, I caught her talking on her cell phone with another guy. I confronted her, and she assured me it was nothing. We got married a couple weeks later, and things seemed to be ok. Fast forward a few months. Every now and then, she would act suspicious, sending text messages and so forth. I also found the number of the guy she was talking with on our phone bill. I again confronted her. She said she would cease talking to him as she didn't want to ruin everything we had worked for. About two months ago, we got into a stupid fight one night and she went out with her friends. I called her in the middle of the night, and she told me she was going to spend the night out. I later find out it was at some guy's house the girls knew. About a month later, she said she needed her space and that she didn't know if she wanted to be married. She felt she missed out on her youth. At that point, she started acting suspicious again. I checked her cell phone only to find a new guys name. I confronted her one morning before a friends wedding. She said she needed to get help and that she had many things going on. Later that night, she told me she wanted to separate. I refused to leave the house (it is in her name, as she bought it prior to our marriage). Over the next few weeks, she would be out late 'with friends.' Now, here is where it gets interesting. One night, after claiming to be at work, she strolled in aroudn midnight. I hear her talking on her cell phone. Sure enough, its with this other guy. They had been together and he drove her home. We had an argument, and the bottom line is that she ended up taking a cab to his house! She assured me nothing is going on, that she isnt cheating (whatever). Anyway, I have been staying with her parents (we have a very good relationship) the past 10 days. All of my things are still at our house. However, she does not want me around when she is there. I need to confront her once more to just tell her my feelings. Sorry if I have rambled here. My questions are as follows: Should I expose what she has done to me to her parents? I am pretty sure we are heading towards a divorce (I didn't necessarily want to). I am the victim in their eyes, but I don't want to take on a bad guy mentality by exposing this. Also, I do not call my wife. She calls me every morning, and once towards the evening. Why does she keep calling, while at the same time, refuse to see me to talk to me? Thanks
LakesideDream Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 You are joking right? You got yourself into a pickle. If I were you I would look into an annulment immediately. Assuming no kids previous to marriage it should be doable. If not, try "no fault". She is not going to settle down into "normal" marriage. Sad, but you have been wasting your time.
Bryanp Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I agree that you should be looking at an annulment. Certainly tell her parents. Look she is has been cheating on you nonstop even before your wedding and continue to cheat on you during your first year of marriage. If you seriously believe that she took a cab to spend the night at this guy's house and she did not cheat on you then you are in major denial. Why would you want to stay married to a woman who has made a joke of her wedding vows and virturally cheats on you without even hiding it. Do you want to wait around until she gives you an STD? You really picked the wrong person and she totally has no respect for you whatsoever.
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