Lostgurl Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 Hi everybody, Im back and not to suprisingly posting in LDR.... I have my doubts that it will work, and i was just kinda hoping for some support, because the whole situation seems to be looking bright! If you remember my previous posts, about my b/f, and his ex being friends. Well the conclusion to that was a breakup, although it sure didn't last long. He was out of the house for 2 weeks, and we tried to get back together, but "incidents" came into play and they caused problems. Basically he thought in the end that i would never leave here (he's been wanting us to move ever since we have gotten serious) and that i didn't believe in him. An job opportunity with a friend in another province arose unexpectedly and his friend just happened to be going down there, so he left. When he came to say goodbye we got back together. LOL i know that sounds weird, but we really are crazy about eachother and stubborn as hell.... We talked about us working on our selves and on our problems, and that we'd talk everyday. At the time (beginning of oct.), i didn't know what to think, i had alot of doubts. Still now sometimes i don't know if this relationtionship will pan out. He wants me to move there in the spring. we've been chatting every night for an average of 2.5 hours a day, and everything has been wonderful. He's come to ALOT of realizations and understandings, and so have i. He's realized that the way i reacted alot of the time was because he was cold at times. I have realized that he wasn't unhappy with me, he was unhappy b/c of his job, and living here. He only stayed here for me. I've also gotten over him being friends with his ex. There is and never was anything between them, it was me being insecure because of our past and his coldness, and his unhappy state that made me think that there was something between them. So basically we are understanding and working through more and more everyday! He's been soooo affectionate, saying WONDERFUL things and making all these promises, and we are telling eachother what we need. But my question is.... Will it last? Do you think its possible for us to keep this up until May? It's such a long time. I'm just scared that he'll meet someone new, better than me and fall out of love with me... I don't know. Just getting insecure again i guess. I know he loves me sooo much and he wants to grow old with me, he's said that we are Yin and Yang, that we complete eachother. But anything can happen right? I know i should have more faith in him, i DO believe in him and have faith in this relationship.. I guess it's just an insecure moment that made me post... I guess i just am needing support from people with experienced in the area of LDR's...
Ssheena Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 Hi Lostgurl... If's he's talking to you for 2.5 hours a night, he's for sure not going out or looking for anyone else! My x and I were in a LDR and we both had camera's on our 'puters so we could see and talk to each other realtime. We would watch dvd's together and then talk about them afterwords, we played online games together - World of Warcraft - and we "saw" each other every day. It worked in that respect. Maybe you can set up your email account to email you all the airline last minute deals and special prices... I still have that..and that way you can go visit him before May..you two are planning on seeing each other before then aren't you? It sounds as if things are going much much better than they were... all the best!
Author Lostgurl Posted November 8, 2006 Author Posted November 8, 2006 Hi Ssheena! Yes, he wants me to come down right after x-mas for about 4 days... We are both saving for the BIG move in May. But thank you soo much for the reasurance. We've just been through soo much i was just starting to get worried... Thanks for the tip on the airlines, ill have to do that, although it's hard, because i either need a credit card, or have to drive 4 hours to reserve the flight with cash lol. What can ya do when you live in the sticks eh?
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