impartedsoul Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 Ok, I have no idea where this goes, so I'll put it here. I'm a 21 year old guy going on 22 in a month.I met this girl that is 19 and is into everything I'm into: video games,computers,anime, sports and cars. She's everything I'd ever hoped for in a girl. She's pretty(to me, even though everyone who's met her think's I could do better),smart, and very funny.I've known here for a month,and I expressed how I felt about her,and told her I'm falling for her. We go out to the movies alot,drink,you know have fun. But when we first met,she told me she's seeing someone in the military,off shore tour in Japan. Even though she told me, this, I still got close to her and put that thought in the back of my head. We talked about that and I told her that it's getting very hard for me to hang out with her, knowing full well that nothing will happen between us.But I then told her that I'd rather have her in my life that not have her in my life at all. But I'm starting to have doubts about our friendship. What do you guys and girls think I should do?
Cheshire Cat Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I think you should be honest with both yourself and her, and stop deluding yourself that you can be content with being just a friend. The more romantically interested you are in the person, the less healthy the "it's better to have her in my life as a friend than not have her in my life at all" attitude is. Do you really want to risk becoming her confidant? If she finds you interesting, she can still call you if things do not work between her and her bf. If you could actually manage to regard her as a friend, and would like to, you can still hang out with her once you are truly over her.
Author impartedsoul Posted November 12, 2006 Author Posted November 12, 2006 well that's how it is now but i just find it hard to be trying to get over her. i still have a hard time NOT thinking about her at night.and it hurts alot that i feel that's shes with someone who might not be a compatible match at all.she did tell me that she told him that if she wasnt with him that she would be with me,which is a good sign. but i just dont want to feel like I'm waiting for results that'll never come about,you know what I'm saying?
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