ICS Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I have broken up with my girlfriend of 5 years for more than a month now, but a week ago, she messaged me. I couldn't help but write back, and we have been talking from time to time on the computer. However, the more I talk to her, the more annoying it gets. Particulary, I am often reminded of the past, when she used to initiate a conversation with me but couldn't respect me enough to sit still for more than a few seconds and just talk to me. I don't have to explain why I dislike this, but for starters, when I talk to someone, I sit there and talk until I am done with the conversation. That aside, she has nothing to tell me about. I feel like I am wasting my time trying to be friends with her because she can't even have any simple conversation with me. For those of you who have been following, I broke up with her because we had a history of problems in the past. To put things into perspective, if you can imagine your girlfriend voluntarily sleeping in the same bed as her cloest guy friend (who claims to be gay) and threating to leave you if you want her to stop, then you'll know why I broke up with her. I used to blame all the problems on her borderline personality disorder, but I realized that even a borderline would treat me better-if they cared. Sometimes it hurts less to be able to talk to her from time to time, yet other times (like tonight) it's the opposite. But the question is, can I / should I be friends with her?
Guest Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 no you cant and should not be friends with her...i think its impossible to go from friends>dating for 5 years>back to friends..it doesnt work and its to hard on both people. it suck, but you just have to stop talking to her and put her completely out of your life...
Author ICS Posted November 9, 2006 Author Posted November 9, 2006 I don't think I could afford even one more day of talking with her. A few days ago she asked me if I had gone on any dates yet. My answer is obviously no, because she was my first girlfriend and I am still not over our 5 year relatioship yet. All I have done recently is try and make new friends. Today she told me that she has a date on Saturday. Just when I thought it would be fine to be friends with her, as soon as she tells me little details about her life, the pain multiplies. I never would believe that she would go on a date only a month after we broke up. This also explains me why she has been giving me the cold shoulder as well. I have to save myself and walk the lonely road soon. Does anyone have anything to share? =(
Ssheena Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 I can share my box of kleenex and my shoulder for you. I can only imagine how much it must hurt to have her tell you about her upcoming date. Let me just twist this knife in your back a little... That used to bug me when I'd be talking and all of a sudden my x would say, oh I'm sorry, I haven't been paying attention to what you've been saying. It's kind of like when you are talking to people and they are looking over your shoulder or just not giving you their full attention. It's wude (as that freak from Star wars would say). Go NC and take care of yourself. I think you know the answer to your question about whether or not you can/should be friends with her.
Author ICS Posted November 11, 2006 Author Posted November 11, 2006 She had the nerve to ask me to sleep with her last night. It's not cute anymore. She even said: "Why not? Don't you like being used?" I am not going to let her manipulate me again. Sleeping with me today and dating a new guy tomorrow? I think NOT. People are so unbelievable sometimes.
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