suzie sweet Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 we are seperated and my daughter is 5 and lives with me but sees her dad and stays over once a week, he wants to take her on a weeks holiday, im not happy about it i think she is too young to stay away from me that long, he is threating court over it. Does anyone know the ideal age a child has to be before going on holiday with a parent???
Art_Critic Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 any age that isn't a newborn.. he is her parent.. just as you are .. Why would you not want him to take his own daughter on a holiday with him ? Would you take her on a holiday ? I wouldn't allow him to take her out of the country.. but unless he has some issues of abuse then any judge would allow him to take her on holiday.. Are you legally separated ?
Author suzie sweet Posted November 7, 2006 Author Posted November 7, 2006 any age that isn't a newborn.. he is her parent.. just as you are .. Why would you not want him to take his own daughter on a holiday with him ? Would you take her on a holiday ? I wouldn't allow him to take her out of the country.. but unless he has some issues of abuse then any judge would allow him to take her on holiday.. Are you legally separated ? Yes legally seperated , i have parental control as my solicitor called it ,with me bringing her up...
tinktronik Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 Yes legally seperated , i have parental control as my solicitor called it ,with me bringing her up... If you have parental control , then his recourse is to take you to court and have a judge decide . AC is right btw, the age is other than a newborn. I agree with hm also, he has every right to dezire to take his child with him on holliday , just as you would.
Gunny376 Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 Women are more "in-tuned" with their emotions than men, and thus they at times react and make decisions from their emotional state of mind, which they later justify and reconcile with their rational state of mind. I understand where your coming from ~ however with that said, its because of emotions is why we have courts, ~ which ideally are devoid of emotion and deal with matters such as this with just the facts and in a rational manner. With that said, you're re-acting to this from an emotional state of mind, that is to say ~ "My daughter is too young to be away from her mother for that long, and couldn't function without her mother for a whole week!" That's an ill-rational statement. Children at that age are very resliant, and adpatable, and their attention span is about a minute and half. She probally will miss Mom, and she may even get a little homesick, she might cry, etc. But, it will make her stronger at a young age, it will help her to learn and adapt to new sitatuations, people and surrondings. It will help her over-come her abdonment issues, which we all have. It will help her to bond with her Father more. All kinds of good things can and will come of this. Worse case scerario? It'll be a nightmare from Hell for Dad, and he'll have to cut his holiday ~ and you'll have her back home in your arms within less than a week. Come on, Mom ~ the real issue is you can't stand to be away from your daughter for that long. Unless there are some concerns about child abuse or neglect, or Dad being responsible ~ save yourself, your XH a lot of time, effort, energy, money, and grief ~ let him take her on holiday. The other "unless" (I'm assuming by the way you post that your British or Common Wealth) is that you think Dad has dual-citizenship, and may actually be planning and plotting of taking your daugher out of country permanetly. In that case ~ I'd fight like Hell.
ilmw Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 we are seperated and my daughter is 5 and lives with me but sees her dad and stays over once a week, he wants to take her on a weeks holiday, im not happy about it i think she is too young to stay away from me that long, he is threating court over it. Does anyone know the ideal age a child has to be before going on holiday with a parent??? Since you realy did not post much about your relationship.. I can only guess.. But being the father of a 5 yr old boy... I'm at a bit of a lose at your concerns... I take my son for days on end some at times.. driving hours to take him to see my side of the family.. so the ties are kept. So Nana on my side and Aunts and Uncles can see him... You need to post more explaining your concerns... because what you posted... is ummm is weak.. sorry.. but you struck a nerve.. Clarify it so you can get more advice..
Sup Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 Yes legally seperated , i have parental control as my solicitor called it ,with me bringing her up... I think if I recall it correctly, this lady posted that she had an affair.
Art_Critic Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I think if I recall it correctly, this lady posted that she had an affair. I don't know if she did or not.. But a judge doesn't care who is banging who when he/she decides on whether or not the husband can take the child on Holiday. They are legally separated right now..
lasan Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 Unless you think her father is planning to run off with her (leave the country), there is no good reason she shouldn't be able to spend a week with him. It took two of you to make this child, and both of you deserve equal parenting time.
littlekitty Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 My Fiance and I took his son on holiday for the first time when he was just 2. We took him to France for a week and he had a wonderful time. If you trust him to have her overnight already, I think there's no reason to deny him and her a holiday together is there?
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