cordova527 Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 My ex and I are both 20 years of age and I know the first thing you are going to think is "you are both young." But heres my story. I met this girl who I went to highschool with and she was a grade lower. We never associated, I honestly never even knew she existed except for the fact my friend dated her for a little bit during my Sophmore year. Well now as a Sophmore at college we finally met. She knew exactly who I was and she kinda scared me at first. She told me I was her highschool crush and she dreamnt of meeting me one day. This is 4 years later I may add. She couldn't say anything to me during highschool because I had a gf at the time and she thought I was some stuck up jock. Well after some talking ect.. we began dating. Everyday she kept telling me over n over how she can't believe shes here with me, she can't believe she finally met me. It was like some fairy tale....Than, she broke up with me 2 weeks later. It was the best two weeks of my life. I have never developed feelings for any female like this before and I have more feelings for her than I did for my ex which I dated for 2.5 years. Anyway, she tells me the reason she has left me was because I am everything she has ever wanted. Every bf she has ever had treated her like **** except me. When she finally has gotten what she wanted or deserved she got "scared." She claims she wishes she's met me a year or so down the road when she is "ready." Well after some time of no talking she came back and I bit the hook. She than says she just wants to be friends so I leave and we don't associate for 3 weeks. In the mean time while we didnt really talk much during the first no communication period sometimes we would see each other but kiss but it didnt last long. Than after the second time of no talking she came back AGAIN. This time she tells me how much she misses me ect. So I bite the hook again. I'm an amateur MMA fighter and she was supposed to go to my upcoming fight but she couldnt because it's her cousins wedding. Well she was going to surprise me and show up but she couldnt resist not talking. We make plans to hangout then come that day she claims she can't she's too busy, we'll def hangout 2morrow. Well I got pissed and told her to just forget about it, for someone who wants me so bad you sure don't try hard. She then tells me she never had intentions of getting back with me, she just wanted to be my friend. Well its been almost 2 weeks since that day and almost 2.5 months since we've broken up. I don't know what to do because she told me she would never love anyone, its just not her. Then one day I had a letter from her in my mailbox which was 3 pages long saying why she did the things she did, how she knows she's gonna sound like a hipocrit but she honestly loves me, I've showed her so much in life and she wished she never did those things because she doesnt deserve me. Now, heres the click....The things she did were when we began dating she had just gotten out of a 7month on off relationship. The guy treated her like ****. He told her the only thing they had in common was sex n tennis...nice guy right, lol. Well the first day we began dating she called me the next day crying saying she ****ed up shes sooo sorry ect, then she tells me he called and he came over her house at like 2am and they talked then kissed but she pushed him away. Well I let it go because she was honest and I know what its like to be in that situation. She then called him saying she doesnt wanna ever speak with him again yada yada. That was a plus for me. Then, after we broke up no more than 3 days later she slept with him, twice. She tells me its because its what she's used too, it didnt mean anything, she just needed someone to run to and couldnt run to me because she has feelings for me. She did it because she knew when she told me I would never wanna speak with her again and this is what she wants because she doesnt deserve me I'm too good for her. I know I've told my whole life story here but my question to everyone is what the hell do I do? I want to be with this girl more than anything in this world. I would walk through fire for her, but how do I know if she's real? How do I know she didn't use me as a rebound to get over her ex? In all honesty, should I just walk away and not look back and maybe one day we'll meet again? No lie I'm a miserable wreck. I can't sleep, I cry at times, lol for such a fighter I'm really weak when it comes to this. Someone please help me
Guest Posted November 9, 2006 Posted November 9, 2006 I dont understand how u could get attached to someone so quickly. Could it be that u really opened up to her because it was so safe? After all she was telling u u were her crush and she was so interested in you. You didnt have to be cautious about her at all coz she made it so easy. Maybe that created a fake sense of attachment to her. Ive heard that theres people that do that, they give u security because they make u believe they're giving u their all in the beginning and then they take it away and ones left like huh? wasn't that person supposed to be gaga about me? As an outsider i would tell u to let go for now, u don't really now her, and shes not treating u as if she was in love with u at all.Sorry to be so harsh bu she sounds like she sold u some fairy tale about u being the guy of her dreams but shes treating u like a guy she is interested in but not enough to be with him. She is obviously not over her x either. You're not too good for her and she shouldn't tell u that.Its a sly way of manipulating u and making u excuse her behaviour.
Author cordova527 Posted November 15, 2006 Author Posted November 15, 2006 I agree with everything you have said and I thank you so much for responding. However, heres an update. I got 4 free tickets to a Devils game on Friday and my buddy and I are going. I for some reason just wanted to see her and asked if she would like to join and she blew off her plans and is now going. Am I making a mistake?? How should I act around her??
tdmce Posted November 16, 2006 Posted November 16, 2006 Oh no, big mistake. Of course she is going to blow off her plans and come, I would too, the tickets are free!! This girl is trouble... If you can't uninvite her, then make your other friend sit beside her and be polite, but don't act overly keen. Preteen she is a relative or something.
Author cordova527 Posted November 18, 2006 Author Posted November 18, 2006 Well she blew the night off about 2 hours before we were leaving by telling me she's getting back with her ex. She then flipped out on me because I asked how she could forgive him when he cheated on her constantly and bragged about how he used her for sex. She also got mad because I told her I wouldn't hook up with her because I thought of her as more than that. O well everyone who replied was correct and the moral of this whole thing is that shes a whore. I was the best damn thing thats ever happened to her and one day not only will she get hers,(kharma) but she'll realize what she lost. Thank you everyone.
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