Patience issue!!

[caring guy]

Hi

I've had 6 dates with this girl & each has progressed to [passionate kissing, hugging.

She's 22 & i'm 30.

I last saw her last Wednesday & i called her Friday inviting her to lunch.

She was working, unsociable hours 10pm until 8am.Sat-Mon, so she couldn't make it. I was cool & said let me know if your free, i'd like to see you before, she said ok.

Her parents are coming from abroad to see her on Thurs, so i guess i won't see her then.

I've heard nothing since, she sent me her pic on phone on Fri & said see you soon.

I've texted her & asked if she wants to meet tommorow, again nothing.

She says i'm a guy that most girls would want, we get on. Why isn't she answering my texts.

It doesn't take long to write a text, i just hate being in limbo & not knowing where we are.

Advice & am i being inpatient??

cg

[Mythical]

Hi

I've had 6 dates with this girl & each has progressed to [passionate kissing, hugging.

She's 22 & i'm 30.

I last saw her last Wednesday & i called her Friday inviting her to lunch.

She was working, unsociable hours 10pm until 8am.Sat-Mon, so she couldn't make it. I was cool & said let me know if your free, i'd like to see you before, she said ok.

Her parents are coming from abroad to see her on Thurs, so i guess i won't see her then.

I've heard nothing since, she sent me her pic on phone on Fri & said see you soon.

I've texted her & asked if she wants to meet tommorow, again nothing.

She says i'm a guy that most girls would want, we get on. Why isn't she answering my texts.

It doesn't take long to write a text, i just hate being in limbo & not knowing where we are.

Advice & am i being inpatient??

cg

 

I don't really think your being impatient, she seems to be quite busy right now, maybe give her a little more time. If not maybe she is not interested in a relationship right now.

Hang in there!

[Pyro]

Hi

I've had 6 dates with this girl & each has progressed to [passionate kissing, hugging.

She's 22 & i'm 30.

I last saw her last Wednesday & i called her Friday inviting her to lunch.

She was working, unsociable hours 10pm until 8am.Sat-Mon, so she couldn't make it. I was cool & said let me know if your free, i'd like to see you before, she said ok.

Her parents are coming from abroad to see her on Thurs, so i guess i won't see her then.

I've heard nothing since, she sent me her pic on phone on Fri & said see you soon.

I've texted her & asked if she wants to meet tommorow, again nothing.

She says i'm a guy that most girls would want, we get on. Why isn't she answering my texts.

It doesn't take long to write a text, i just hate being in limbo & not knowing where we are.

Advice & am i being inpatient??

cg

 

You have contacted her enough. You don't want to annoy her because she may lose interest. She does sound busy. Let her contact you when she is available.

[caring guy]

Thanks guys

I know when we last met, she got a phone call whilst i was walking her to her bus, it was a guy, she said he'd been hassling her & it was an ex that lives where she used to live.

She said she couldn't talk now as i was next to her!

I could take that 2 ways that she didn't wanna talk infront of me, or she could be bullshi**ing & it could be some other guy.

When i saw her on the bus go past, she was on the phone.

Just made me a little suspicious!!

She maybe sleeps in the day because of work, she said she had a friend coming to visit Sunday.

As i say, i haven't OTT texted her, just 2 times since Friday.

It's just a bit inconsiderate to not reply, i fancy her a lot & she said she likes me.

She said we're dating, but not official bf/gf yet & i said that was cool, she is open & likes to talk about the situation & i am too!

Just i don't know what the score is, she said she'd let me know if we could get together before Wed.

cg

[Mythical]

I think its kinda weird that she said you guys are "dating" just not official yet.

Maybe she is still with someone, trying to break up with him (person on the phone) she jumped back on that phone pretty quick.

 

Right now I think so you don't get hurt and get your hopes up....leave everything to her. I think she has something to deal with before you guys can start.

Let her come to you

[Pyro]

I think its kinda weird that she said you guys are "dating" just not official yet.

Maybe she is still with someone, trying to break up with him (person on the phone) she jumped back on that phone pretty quick.

 

Right now I think so you don't get hurt and get your hopes up....leave everything to her. I think she has something to deal with before you guys can start.

Let her come to you

 

This is true. She did say dating, which for some it means dating more than one person at a time.

 

Like Mythical said, don't get your hopes up and let her contact you.

[Mythical]

This is true. She did say dating, which for some it means dating more than one person at a time.

 

Like Mythical said, don't get your hopes up and let her contact you.

 

Do I keep coming back because of "the happy face" again? lol

[funkify]

I don't think there's anything for you to worry about, the last you heard from her she was keen. Leave it at that. Don't contact her anymore. I'd say you haven't heard from her because she's busy, let her contact you now when she's free.

[Pyro]

Do I keep coming back because of "the happy face" again? lol

 

You tell me......

[caring guy]

Thanks Mythical & Riddler

I'm a little miffed if she is dating someone else as she told me she wasn't.

Ok, she's younger than me, but seems a lot older in our conversation etc, i guess this may be showing her age.

I said i didn't date more than 1 at a time, as i can't be intimate with more than one at a time.

I can't take somene out, get good feeling about someone & kiss them & hold them & then do the same with some other girl.

 

Maybe your right Mythical, i would have said that i was resolving something & needed to sort something & be open, but thats me !

I hate head games

I'd feel miffed as i said, she held me, massaged my leg etc when we kissed, i felt it was going great.

We flirted a lot & it was great, i'm just in limbo.

I thought about asking her what the score was on her answer phone, in a nice way

[Mythical]

You tell me......

 

 

Nooooo!!!

"Kicking and screaming"

I like to have fits!

[caring guy]

I could send a text message in 1 minute, how busy can someone be!!, i guess your right, unthoughtfull i feel none the less!

cg

[Mythical]

Thanks Mythical & Riddler

I'm a little miffed if she is dating someone else as she told me she wasn't.

Ok, she's younger than me, but seems a lot older in our conversation etc, i guess this may be showing her age.

I said i didn't date more than 1 at a time, as i can't be intimate with more than one at a time.

I can't take somene out, get good feeling about someone & kiss them & hold them & then do the same with some other girl.

 

Maybe your right Mythical, i would have said that i was resolving something & needed to sort something & be open, but thats me !

I hate head games

I'd feel miffed as i said, she held me, massaged my leg etc when we kissed, i felt it was going great.

We flirted a lot & it was great, i'm just in limbo.

I thought about asking her what the score was on her answer phone, in a nice way

 

 

lol your name fits you very well.

I hope things work out and she "finds out what she wants" soon!

She ebtter not be playing to you, the kissing and experience and ceonnection you guys hade is great but I know girls can have that with a lot of ppl and you seem very nice so I hope she isn't toying with you, She needs to straighten things out and figure out whats going on, for the mean time just don't worry get your mind on other things and if other opportunities arrive take them!

[Pyro]

Nooooo!!!

"Kicking and screaming"

I like to have fits!

 

I always admired a screamer.

[Mythical]

I could send a text message in 1 minute, how busy can someone be!!, i guess your right, unthoughtfull i feel none the less!

cg

 

 

 

 

EXACTLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Mythical]

I always admired a screamer.

 

 

 

geese now your just being a lil piggy!

[Pyro]

geese now your just being a lil piggy!

 

I get out of line every now and then. A few hard slaps ought to put me back in check.

[Mythical]

I get out of line every now and then. A few hard slaps ought to put me back in check.

 

 

The hard slaps are which make me GET out of line!

[Pyro]

The hard slaps are which make me GET out of line!

 

You wouldn't want to slap that smile off my face now would you?

[caring guy]

OK, i don't mind an intemingling thread, i guess it makes friends & all!

I just got a call from her. She's in a bar alone she says watching the footy after college!

Ok, she's alone at 10pm in city centre, watching footy! She says that she's alone, i dunno!

Her parents are arriving on Thursday from Latvia, she can't meet tomorrow.

I just want her to say we're a couple & kiss her all over, she's the best!

Her folks don't speak English, i offered my services & said i'd be glad to show them all this area of beautiful Englishness & she said she'd let me know.

I guess i'm being nice as thats how i am!, not cos i want to get her in bed, i just would genuinely like to meet her folks, go out in the places of history & show them around & indirectly showing this girl i like a lot, that i'm a thoughtful, fun, there for her, type of guy!

But, i don't wanna be played, i just want to know if i'm with her in this, or wether she's dating others, i just don't know

She's gonna let me know.

More Limbo. I hate limbo.

cg

[shawn_68]

I guess i'm being nice as thats how i am!, not cos i want to get her in bed, i just would genuinely like to meet her folks, go out in the places of history & show them around & indirectly showing this girl i like a lot, that i'm a thoughtful, fun, there for her, type of guy!

 

Nothing wrong with being nice. I think you just need to curb your enthusiasm with her just a bit. Slow things down in your mind. Be patient, and move at HER pace.

 

Otherwise you are going to scare her off. And it will be over before it really got started. Make sense?

 

Good luck.

[Mythical]

You wouldn't want to slap that smile off my face now would you?

 

 

of course not Riddler! Don be sad!

[Mythical]

like I said, don't think about this so much.

I totally feel for you but in the end if she is with someone els than you need to move on and I think by being attached right now you "might" only get hurt.

She needs to show YOU that she is interested....you've done your job leave it up to her....

[Pyro]

of course not Riddler! Don be sad!

 

Sad? Not me.

 

I am generally a happy person, which I am sure you could tell by my avatar.

[caring guy]

Thanks

Yeh, i know i should let her make the next move.

I think as she's quite a bit younger than me, although she acts mature, she may enjoy the feeling of being chased by 2 guys.

I can't believe she'd be in town alone like she said!

When we had dinner in town, she got phone calls & that guy that called her asking her where she was & that she couldn't talk now.

I assumed then that she was lying about it being an ex, just a feeling i got & the look on her face.

I can't ask her if she's seeing someone else as that would be the end as it would show i don't trust her, but i don't wanna play second fiddle, especially as i like her!

cg