Guest Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 So, My ex bf of 5 months dumped me and the next day he was with his Ex gf. Well, needless to say, this was a shock to me. He told me before that he didn't feel the love for her like he did for me.... So, anyhow, he's lying to someone. He said he had a hard time because she asked him to come back to her and said she had changed, but that he loved everything about me, so it was hard for him to decide. Well, it obviously wasn't because he told me to leave him alone and he was going to "move on". He has been mean and cold hearted about dumping someone who he claimed to love. I am hurting, but I am slowly healing. I work at the same place as both of these people, although, not the same department, thank God. So, I heard, from a co-worker that they are getting married, either next week or the one after. I also heard this from a friend that is in school with her. So, I know it to be true. Wow, we only broke up a month ago. A month ago, he was telling ME that he wanted to marry me, spend the rest of his life with me, and for me to have his baby! So, what the heck happened? I know everyone will say he loved her more. But, I don't see how. I mean, everyone says how unhappy they were together and how he complained all the time about their relationship and the things that she did, ect... With me, we never fought, never complained, always had a good time, could talk about anything, had amazing chemistry, ect.... My thoughts are that she got pregnant and now he has to marry her, because he did that with his first wife. Any ideas? she says they want to have a baby when they get married. I was kinda thinking, either A. He cheated on me and got her pregnant, or B. It's not his and she's still pregnant. She has 4 children and he has 2. Also, I gave him a picture of the two of us in his work clipboard, after we broke up. It was still there, a month later... What does that mean? I took it out of there since I was so mad, I thought "he can't have any part of me". Stupid I know, but I can't believe he would tell me how much he loved me, but can't be with me..... Thank you.
Krying Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 Wow this is eerily similar to my situation that I posted about here... http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t103123/ I'd say this girl is pregnant. That's what brought about my ex to marry her ex in a super quick wedding. From the time she left me to her wedding day was 3 weeks. Either my ex cheated on me with her ex and got pregnant, then got married pronto, or it was the weeks of makeup sex those two had. It's actually hard for her to get pregnant as she has a medical condition. But they were never really that careful about it anyway. He never used protection and neither did she, but they just timed it for her off days and hoped for the best I think. My guess is she wanted it to happen foolishly thinking it would solidify their relationship. She left him once, so a baby isn't going to patch things up between them. And his notion of getting married now, then working out their problems has to be one of the stupidest things I've ever heard. So Guest, if your ex loved you more but is marrying this other girl, then either he was not really over her and was trying to move past her, or wasn't over her and was filling in time hoping she'd take him back. Remember, actions speak louder than words. You got to realize he's probably telling the girl he is with now, that he never loved you either. Sad, but a good possibility.
daphne Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 Guest, I'm sorry to hear that you got hurt like that. I know it's got to suck working with the two of them. Chin up. Don't let them see you down. Honestly, I think you're better off without your ex. He sounds like a flake who doesn't knwo what he wants. This thing with his ex won't work or they wouldn't rush into it so fast. A friend of mine's ex ran off with his ex of 10 years and got married a couple of months later. They were divorced 6 months later and he came crawling back to my friend a year later. Fortunately she had met hte love of her life that I had introduced to her about 15 years ago. Fate is funny. The point is that her ex was a flake also and thought he could chase a fantasy. He was foolish and he now regrets it. I would move on and not look back. He's not a catch.
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