koolkat68 Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 okay guys i like to send sweet text messages and leave letters to my g/f...not really g/f right now...we are kind of on an off period even though we talk all the time and hang out...were just not officially back together as far as i'm concerned...well back to the subject at hand...i like to do little sweet things that are original....the only thing is that i've kind of run out of ideas of things to do and say and i dont really want to repeat myself with stuff i've done in the past....so any fresh ideas for texts, letters, or something i haven't thought of....i would really appreciate it.....but i have a feeling i need to move fast...so dont be scared of giving me something very outlandish...cuz thats just what i probably need to do...i really need some help guys...i believe that this is the girl is my one true love
Wantingtogetitright Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 .........she is your one true love then quit effing around with BS messages that someone else has helped you come up with, ask to meet her for a coffee or whatever and tell her straight up exactly how you feel. Jeez some people make it hard for themselves don't they!
Author koolkat68 Posted November 7, 2006 Author Posted November 7, 2006 not trying to win her over with stuff like that....just want tips on nice things to do for her....thats all...
magichands Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 i believe that this is the girl is my one true love You are soulmates.
DanielMadr Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 okay guys i like to send sweet text messages and leave letters to my g/f...not really g/f right now...we are kind of on an off period even though we talk all the time and hang out...were just not officially back together as far as i'm concerned...well back to the subject at hand...i like to do little sweet things that are original....the only thing is that i've kind of run out of ideas of things to do and say and i dont really want to repeat myself with stuff i've done in the past....so any fresh ideas for texts, letters, or something i haven't thought of....i would really appreciate it.....but i have a feeling i need to move fast...so dont be scared of giving me something very outlandish...cuz thats just what i probably need to do...i really need some help guys...i believe that this is the girl is my one true love You are dumped and you even dont know it, interesting. Save sweet messages to your grany in senior-home. you was dumped because she doesnt want to be your goddes....she wants to be your sex-slave...speaking in extreme terms of course. Dont act like her sissy friend. Sweet messages wont win you anything. I am truly sorry but I hope you got the message.
Walk Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 Does she send you "sweet textmessages" and stuff? What's the real deal here? Did she want the break, or did you? And why? Do you know what caused the 'break'? I'm kind of wondering if it's because maybe you come off as a little too needy and clingy. People need space and time. Especially if we've specificially asked for time apart. Then you need to respect that, and not send more text messages or romantic messages. Sweet text messages and stuff are awesome. But in limited quantities. Too much of a good thing spoils it. We start to take it for granted, and then those gestures of love become little to nothing in our eyes. It's like chocolate. It's amazing, but not if eaten all the time. Then you just get sick of it... Otherwise... as far as ideas... What have you done so far? I think romantic is different for each person. I get a thrill just having my bf say he had a great time with me, and thanking me for being so good to him.
Author koolkat68 Posted November 7, 2006 Author Posted November 7, 2006 wow guys....maybe i worded things wrong or something....but your comments are noted....i'm not a needy or clingy guy.....i'm probably the exact opposite.... and maybe i should stay that way....but i really was just looking for some ideas of what you guys thought i could do just to show some affection (wasn't specifically talking about text messages).......but i guess the psycho-analysis of my intentions is cool...and im not so stupid as to think that this will do anything....we have talked alot about what we intend to do in the future.....i think we are just both scared of the commitment....i think my past has come back to haunt me with her trusting me to honest with her.....although i've never been unfaithful or anything like that with her....i guess you can say that i wasn't exactly a good guy in the past...even though back then i never thought i was that bad, but looking back on it i was....and it doesn't help that we talk every night and hang out for hours upon end.....and if i dont call her one day...the next day she's asking me why didn't i call her....she also likes to think that every girl that says hi to me wants me or vice versa...i've never been really able to shake that from her head...but its better now...but i always have to remind her that she's the only one on my mind.....its not perfect you guys....but it works for me....i've had other relationships in the past that were longer than this one...but now that i've been with her....i no longer consider those anything....well there you go guys....heres something that can be analyzed....tell me what you think...
Wantingtogetitright Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 all that you have just said my original advice still stands. Tell her how you feel, quit pussy footing around. If she feels the same, great, if she doesn't at least you know and you can take control of your life.
Parmalat Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 If you like the girl and you think this is the real deal, don't mess around, put your cards on the table. I don't know about how other people feel, but if I was her I would appreciate it, being told where I stand. Then let her do her bit.
Walk Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I still got confused.. Let me see if I got this right. You're both exclusively only seeing each other, you talk for hours, you call her every day, you love her to pieces and she loves you, but you aren't "bf/gf"? As long as you both are clear on what is going on, then great! Are you backing up your words with actions? I've found that no matter how much my bf tells me sweet things, if there's no action, then I don't believe it. Or maybe, even if you think you are, try more actions for a while and guage her response. I'm dying to know what these little sweet things that you do are? Help the rest of us out here. I could always use fresh ideas. Man... I've been trying to puzzle out what you could do that's sweet, but not knowing what she likes or anything, it's really hard. Really what I find the best are the times where my bf remembers little comments I've made about stuff I would like to do, or that I'd like to get. Those really small, half mentioned comments. Like, one time I very briefly mentioned there was an exhibit at a museum in a city that's 2 hours away that I wanted to see. About a week later he tells me we're going for a drive. We end up at the museum and had a great time, even though I know it wasn't something he would've gone out of his way for. But I guess that's partly why it meant so much to me. Because it wasn't something he did becaues he wanted it, he did it because I wanted it. One time, he spent about an hour driving through all the parking lots on campus to find my car, (thousands of cars) just to place a single red rose on my windshield with a note that he loves me for me to find after I got out of class. It took time, and effort for him to do that. It was action, not just words. Any one can say the words... And it shows that he pays attention to what I say. That I am special and unique to him and he is interested in what I find interesting. That even if he doesn't find it great fun, he puts forth maximum effort to ensure that I have fun. That means more to me than any amount of words.. and I'm wondering if maybe that is what your girl is picking up on. That words are just words. They are needed, and they help greatly, but if there isn't that solid base of actions/effort on your part to back them up, then they seem hollow or fake.
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