romantic157 Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 What is going on? I met my girl 1 year ago, we have a lot of fun when we are together and have everything in common. About every 6 weeks or so her ex calls and she goes back to him. She has yet to admit this is what’s going on but people talk. After the second time I pushed her into telling me it was over, which was fine I just needed to hear her say it. I didn’t call her but ran into her 2 weeks later; this was a good thing, I think? We talked and she told me how much she missed me and asked me who the girl I was with was. I told her the girl was someone I was talking to. Anyway she cried, I cried and we started seeing each other again. We had a great time but that lasted about 2 weeks. I invited her and her son and sister over for dinner; we had a great time but before she left her ex called. She said the hell with him, I’m with you. Well she disappeared Friday night, when I called Saturday her sister said she didn’t come hope but not to worry. Well she was with him although she won’t admit it. I told her someone I know live near her ex saw her truck. I was BS her but she flew of the handle at me, accused me of driving by her ex’s house. I tried to explain I was BS ing her although I was right. She is pissed at me… I still love her with all my heart, her sister tried to talk to her on my behalf and she said she loves her ex, they fight like cat and dogs and never seem to last much more then a month or so. This guy is a joke, lives in a 20yr old trailer and makes her pay for everything. When we are together she’s not asked to pay for anything. I treat her like gold, I don’t understand why women choose under achievers that don’t know how to treat woman? I haven’t called her although I would love to hear her voice. Her sister tells me my girl was pretty put off by my manipulation. I want her back; I want her to be my Queen. Any suggestions?
Davis Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 Romantic. Did you lose your Mojo? You know, did you become a pussy? You have to do NC all the way for at least 4 weeks. She left you because you were not doing something right. She lost attraction for you. Because you became a wuss? Maybe you should'nt have treated her like gold. He sounds more like a man than you. That's what she likes. I doubt it will last with him because she will decide she doesn't want to be with a loser. So, do NC, go back to being a man and wait.
Author romantic157 Posted November 7, 2006 Author Posted November 7, 2006 Lost Mojo, No. as to your reference to me being a puss/wuss, maybe if you call treating a woman like a lady and not a piece of meat. With that being said, that’s probably what I was doing wrong, being to nice. The more I think about it the more I realize her relationship with her mom while growing up sounds similar to her relationship with her ex. I feel this is what she expects a relationship to be like, not knowing any better. How do I show her she’s deserves more, she’s better then what she knows as normal? Yes, I plan on continuing NC until she contacts me or I get over it. NC worked once, however I don’t think it will work this time. Some how she feels I betrayed her even though she’s the one the went back to her ex, I just happen to be the one who called her on it. Doesn’t change how I feel and truly believe if she could let go of this looser we could be very happy. Anyway I appreciate you insight Davis excluding you attempt in castrating me. I am 10 times the man this guy is unless of course being a man is treating woman without respect.
tikigods Posted November 7, 2006 Posted November 7, 2006 she doesn't want you. Regardless if you want her, and I bet she will gladdly keep you stung along since she knows she has you right int he palm of her hand.
Author romantic157 Posted November 7, 2006 Author Posted November 7, 2006 I think she knows what she wants. I have not talk to her in 2 weeks nor do I plan to. I mail her letter thanking her for the good times and wisher her all the best with the ex. I may never hear from her again but hope she realizes what she loosing or possibly lost. I wrote to this forum looking for some kind of insight to turn the tables? NC seems to be the only thing I can do but I thought I would ask if any of you can provide good advice.
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