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How do i make an ex stop being cold with me online? It's so easy to do it.

 

I started speaking to the ex online today , and she hi then straight away with "why do you want to talk on here and not in person" , and then said after "ok , why are you talking to me" and told me to leave her alone. But if she wanted me to leave her alone she would have blocked me , right?

 

Soon after she started doing wierd things with her name , all this depressed ****. Was it me that made her like that , because she wasn't like that before.

 

I apoligized for my behaviour and said i'm here if she wanted to talk , if not then i understand. I sent it while she wasn't at the computer. So didn't get a reply.

 

I'm done with the games now , she is obviously annoyed at why i didn't talk to her in person them two times she seen me. But i can't tell her "oh i was playing games that i was told from someone" I would find it really hard to talk in person if i hadn't talked to them online for over a month.

 

How am i going to break the coldness? She always seems to hate me online but in person doesn't look like she hates me at all , and if she got all depressed and that because of me what's that mean?

 

Names she used on her msn..

 

so depressed i can't go on , you will be sorry when i'm gone

i'm only happy when dreaming

hug me and i will stop crying

[[who cares]]

all i want is to be loved

 

A cry for attention but why? and she was loved but threw it away.

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This is what i'm dealing with...

 

[Poker Face] says:

can i ask you something?

Sarah says:

if you feel the need

[Poker Face] says:

how's your grandma been after the operation?

Sarah says:

fine

 

I just want to scream at her. I understand why she is doing it , because when she sees me i didn't give her the time of day. So how am i meant to get her to realize?

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So how am i meant to get her to realize?

 

get her to realize what? she doesn't want you to talk to her online, so don't. she wants you to say hello in person, so if you want to, then do that.

 

your post is a very hard to understand, so sorry if i am missing something.

 

it might be worth mentioning that if you two are exes, meaning you're no longer together, maybe it's best to leave each other alone. if she really wanted to talk to you, she would be happy to hear from you whether it's in person, on the phone, online, or in a letter.

 

she's not happy with you for whatever reason--she said leave her alone and that is what you should do.

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get her to realize what? she doesn't want you to talk to her online, so don't. she wants you to say hello in person, so if you want to, then do that.

 

your post is a very hard to understand, so sorry if i am missing something.

 

it might be worth mentioning that if you two are exes, meaning you're no longer together, maybe it's best to leave each other alone. if she really wanted to talk to you, she would be happy to hear from you whether it's in person, on the phone, online, or in a letter.

 

she's not happy with you for whatever reason--she said leave her alone and that is what you should do.

 

yeah , i missed alot out , most of it is in the best way to win someone back thread. Basically I asked her to meet up last week and she was cold then and she spots me out drinking and i ignore her...and then did it this saturday to. She is cold because of that , if she didn't want to speak she would have blocked me.

 

and yes we are ex's , been split up 5weeks and haven't talked to her much in the past month. It's so easy to hide feelings online that's the only problem. When i seen her out she seemed fine , didn't look like she hated me. But i didn't talk to her.

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yeah , i missed alot out , most of it is in the best way to win someone back thread. Basically I asked her to meet up last week and she was cold then and she spots me out drinking and i ignore her...and then did it this saturday to. She is cold because of that , if she didn't want to speak she would have blocked me.

 

and yes we are ex's , been split up 5weeks and haven't talked to her much in the past month. It's so easy to hide feelings online that's the only problem. When i seen her out she seemed fine , didn't look like she hated me. But i didn't talk to her.

 

 

okay, so just leave her alone then. last i checked, exes don't owe each other anything. it sounds like she wants you to move on.

 

she doesn't have to block you; she said she wants you to stop, so listen to her. no offense, but i would be annoyed with you too.

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okay, so just leave her alone then. last i checked, exes don't owe each other anything. it sounds like she wants you to move on.

 

she doesn't have to block you; she said she wants you to stop, so listen to her. no offense, but i would be annoyed with you too.

 

If you would read the posts in that thread you would know what she has been doing.

 

I still care for her , i still want to be there for her. Just she thinks i'm a ******* at the minute, and i know she doesn't hate me.

 

But that's your opinon, but trust me if she hated me or wanted nothing to do with me i would be blocked , i have seen people do less then what i done and been blocked.

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You are trying to read too much into this. Move on, you can expect her to be cold, friendly, angry. It's all natural and part of the process of breaking up, don't take it personally, but you need to let go and focus on your on life.

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Adventure...I don't think her behavior is born out of coldness as it is GAME PLAYING. She's screwing with your head!! And the more you respond to it, the more she'll lay it on.

 

Wanna mess with HER head?

 

Go *poof* for awhile. RESIST any pathetic attempt she makes to incite a reacton from you. Do NOT acknowledge it. Do NOT communicate with her. Just go about your life WITHOUT her, and if she does see you, let her feast her game-playing eyes on your content with life.

 

Believe me...she will go nuts. This girl is a drama queen. And the ONE thing that gets to a drama queen more than ANYTHING else is to be IGNORED.

 

Do that, and she'll come crawling back.

 

Guaranteed...

 

~T~]

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Adventure...I don't think her behavior is born out of coldness as it is GAME PLAYING. She's screwing with your head!! And the more you respond to it, the more she'll lay it on.

 

Wanna mess with HER head?

 

Go *poof* for awhile. RESIST any pathetic attempt she makes to incite a reacton from you. Do NOT acknowledge it. Do NOT communicate with her. Just go about your life WITHOUT her, and if she does see you, let her feast her game-playing eyes on your content with life.

 

Believe me...she will go nuts. This girl is a drama queen. And the ONE thing that gets to a drama queen more than ANYTHING else is to be IGNORED.

 

Do that, and she'll come crawling back.

 

Guaranteed...

 

~T~]

 

Doing that , done that. Twice out clubbing. She won't come crawling back , she thinks i moved on , plus fear of rejection. She won't come crawling back on her own. Even when we were together she was worried to hug , kiss me at first , from the fear i would push her off.

 

Sooo what do i do? Meet her in person , see for myself and talk?

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She won't come crawling back on her own. Even when we were together she was worried to hug , kiss me at first , from the fear i would push her off.

 

Adventure....read your above statement. Now, I need to ask you - do you REALLY want to reconcile with a woman who is so stubborn she won't even bother to kiss, hug, or show any affection on her OWN without being prompted by you? You say she "fears" rejection. Yeah, don't we all? But if our love is strong enough, it will over rule fear - or, it won't. In which case the person remains stagnant and aloof because it's safer. Is that what you want? Are you prepared to kiss her arse everytime you two have an argument? Because it seems to me that's the way it will always be if you accept these terms. You may not think so right now because you're hurting, but sooner or later you're going to get tired of grovelling in this relationship. Think long and hard on this...and answer it honestly. It really is something to think about.

 

Sooo what do i do? Meet her in person , see for myself and talk?

 

At this point? Nothing. Look, you've let this woman know in clear terms that you care for her, want her, desire her. Now...back off. There's nothing more you can do. If you continue, she will run, not walk, the other way. You have to give her space now. I know you claim you have done this, but give it more time. In fact, a LOT more time. And especially with this one. She's stubborn.

 

And if she never comes back, then so be it. You're young and there's plenty of time and plenty of women out there who can make you happy and will be better suited for you.

 

In the meantime, live life to it's fullest. Do things that will make you feel better about yourself. Work out, take up hobbies, go out with friends and have a good time. If she comes back, she'll like the "new and improved" you. If not...hey, you'll attract other women with your newfound confidence.

 

Either way, you can't lose.

 

Hang in there, friend. :)

 

~T~

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Ok , well from today i am going *poof* , i blocked and deleted her from msn ( i know how to get them back on my list but atleast i can't see her) , i disabled my profile she views , someone changed the password for me so no way in getting back into that (only if i say i lost my password) , and myspace i'm going to make a new profile , and delete the old.

 

That gives her no way on checking up on me and knowing what i'm up to. I still got her number , if i delete it i can get it back because it's in my msn chat logs. I know how to get everything back i have changed but i gotta be strong and not do it.

 

That is probably why i can't get over her after 5-6weerks , because were both online and i always see her stupid pics. Well i put a stop to that. If i change everything i dunno if she can get in contact with me anyway , because i don't know if she has deleted my number or not. She can send me an email i guess.

 

I'm meeting this girl i like at a club on friday , she told me to come..so i am..i started speaking to her on the same day i started talking to the ex , maybe i choose the wrong one? lol :)

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