xxbaddgurl83xx Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 My fiance and I have been together for almost 4 years. I am 22 and he just turned 29. The first few years of our relationship were HOT! Things couldn't have been better. Well now it seems like our sex life has diminished from almost every day, to one a week, to every other week, to now which seems to be about once a month (when I have to beg for it!). I don't understand what his deal is. He says that he just no longer has the desire to have sex and in my opinion I think he means that he no longer has the desire to have sex with ME. What really bothers me the most is before him and I got together he was all about sex and had been with multiple partners. Now after being together for almost 4 years he doesn't even care anymore. I feel like I'm the guy in this relationship begging my prude girlfriend to give it up! Its ridiculous! I just don't know what to do. I've gotten to the point where I don't even try to initiate sex anymore because I am so tired of getting turned down. Every time I touch him below the belt the first words out of his mouth are "we aren't having sex". He always tells me that sex is all I care about. Thats not the case but I am young and I would like to have a thriving sex life not a old married couple sex life. I feel like he is not interested in me anymore. Could it be possible that he just is tired of sex? I just don't know what to do to get him out of this rut. Its been going on for a few months now and I'm getting frustrated!! Any advice would be helpful
norajane Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 You posted in your other thread that you cheated on him a year ago, and that he makes comments about it - which tells me he's still not over the infidelity. I would guess that his not wanting to have sex with you has a LOT to do with the fact that he's not over the cheating yet.
PussInHeels Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 You posted in your other thread that you cheated on him a year ago, and that he makes comments about it - which tells me he's still not over the infidelity. I would guess that his not wanting to have sex with you has a LOT to do with the fact that he's not over the cheating yet. That would be a likely reason. But this is something the two of you need to talk about. Say you aren't attacking him, you just want to give him a chance to say anything he has on his mind. If he needs more time, being understanding will make things go faster.
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