luvstarved Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 Argh! My H and I are having all kinds of horrible conflicts and it seems like our marriage is going down the tubes. I am sitting up with my stomach in knots and he is in there sleeping like a baby. I was reading when he came in and he has been acting all day and night like there are no issues. He laid down and after a few minutes started chuckling to himself. I asked him why and he said he was thinking about the Three Stooges episode he was watching this morning. Holy Cow! Well I got up and said it really flummoxed me how guys can do this. I told him I didn't blame him for being able to put it all aside and daydream about Larry Moe and Curly but it sure sucked that I would be spending another sleepless night! And he was like, well I am thinking about it too but didn't we have a good day? You mean - you spent the day at your mother's being fed, being told you were right, napping and watching the ball game then came home to a nice dinner from me and managed to be civil to everyone else and enjoy another ball game and then toddle off to bed thinking of slapstick comedy? HOW IS THIS POSSIBLE?? It always seems to me when relationships are in crisis, the woman stays up eating Haagen Daz and crying and the guy just blissfully floats off to dreamland. WTF kind of deal is that?
dropdeadlegs Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 It's a raw deal, like bleeding every month for what seems like an eternity and bearing all the real work in the proliferation of the species. (Nine lunar months is no picnic and doesn't compare to that few minutes contributed by the opposite sex.) I feel your pain. The older I get the more a relationship crisis affects me physically and emotionally. During my divorce 3 years ago I lost nearly 50 pounds, looked like a bobble-head, and was literally physically ill from the stress and anxiety. I would be absolutely exhausted, yet when sleep finally came it would last a mere three hours. I think I cried 50 pounds away if that is possible. Sometimes I think I'm getting nuttier, but I honestly think that it's just that with each relationship I have cared more because I had found someone more "right" for me. I can sleep my way through some things, but not as many as I once could. Hope you can work things out, and quickly. Tylenol PM helps to get some rest for the short term. Long term, I would go with anti-anxiety medication and counseling.
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