wumbo6 Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 I've liked this one girl since 9th grade. we had math class and we had some casual conversations but that was it. then my feelings for her died down. This year, my good friend and i started hanging out with her group of friends. and i've really gotten to know her. however one night, my friend tells me that he likes her too. i never told my friend my feelings for her so i just responded with "cool man". this year(11th grade) we(me and the girl) have math class again together. my friend had told our whole circle of friends that he liked her and she probably knew too(from other people). she began showing signs of her liking me(drawing pictures of me and her in a heart, love letters, trying to sit next to me at lunch, playing with my hair etc.) my friend also notices that the extra attention she gives me. so on her birthday my friend sets up a scavenger hunt for her. and at the end i was to give her a letter that confessed his love for her. so that day in math class when she finished reading it, i heard her giggle and say, awkward. after school that day she sat next to him. after she went home someone else asked how the hunt went. he replied"she actually sat next to me and not you(me) today" i know the whole "bros before hoes" policy, but sometimes i really question if my friend would do the same things i would do for him. i really would like to keep everyone happy. and cringe at the though of losing either one of them. can someone help me out?
hindsfeet Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 your friend didn't know you liked her before he said he did. so, he's not cockblocking. if you really like her just be straight up with him and say you like her. dont go behind his back. if he's your friend, then even though he may get pissy for a bit, he'll get over it in time. dude you've got one shot at life. it can end at any point. you dont wanna be like in your 50's and wondering about the shoulda coulda woulda's. right now im talking to a girl i went to high school with and never had any clue she was into me in school cause of the whole bro's before hoe's thing. my buddy liked her and he never had a chance. cause she liked me the whole time. its like 12 yrs later now. she's been married, so have i , and i'm thinkin about the shoulda coulda woulda that may have been. hope that helps some
monkey00 Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I do believe in Bros before hoes, however there's always a place and time for it. This is H.S., you're still young and this is the time to experiment and live (so is college). in HS as easy as it is to lose a friend, it's as easy to gain friends. As easy as it is to have a girl that you like taken, it's as easy to find other fish in the sea. By the time you reach college, and everyone goes their separate ways i doubt you will even be in contact with him. Your so called friend sees you as the bad guy moving into his territory. If that friend isnt so close or just someone you know on a regular basis, i say go for her. You may lose a friend but at least you'll be gaining precious dating experience. There's a time and place to be nice, and a time and place to go after what you want. IMO h.s. is not the place to be nice...bonds are so weak there, rumors spread fast, and everyone is judging everyone. From the sounds of it she could like you. Girls in h.s. are naive, they're willing to go out with somebody she doesnt like, for the mere fact that he had the balls to ask her out/ become her bf. You didnt make the move, but your friend did.
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