Author KittenMoon Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 Well, what about ceasing the contact. I mean, if you happen to run into him either ignore him, or keep the conversation to "get out of my way you stupid f*cker" or something minimal like that. Actually, I have been VERY cool with him during all recent contact. I REALLY want to at least establish a cordial friendship with him (which has been strictly email based, to the point where I have physically avoided him him, much like today), and he's practically begged for my friendship, but he really needs to stop bringing up "us". If that time no longer exists, it needs to no longer exist. I certainly haven't brought it up. And yet, he still does. Grr. Idiot. I hate calling attention to it, but maybe I'll have to at some point. I thought I had set the "ground rules". God, I feel like an idiot when it comes to this. It's like dealing with a very stupid child sometimes.
magichands Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 Oh, and the "I hope you are growing" part of his email is offensive. Oh boy...what a corker. When you saw him last, was his arse any bigger?
Author KittenMoon Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 But didn't you say that sexual feelings for ANYONE are MIA?? Oh heck no, I'm frisky as hell. Getting off my birth control and starting anti-ds seems to be making me friskier than I have been in YEARS. The problem is, of course, I won't have sex with just anyone.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 Oh, and the "I hope you are growing" part of his email is offensive. Actually, this is just his response to something I said a while back. Strangely, it just shows he was actually paying attention, despite my thoughts to the contrary. I'll admit he's not the brightest bulb on the marquee. Tends to say dumb stuff like this.
magichands Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 I REALLY want to at least establish a cordial friendship with him (which has been strictly email based, to the point where I have physically avoided him him, much like today), and he's practically begged for my friendship, but he really needs to stop bringing up "us". Well, if you want to be friends, then that's going to be tough. But an email friendship is a total waste of time - with him, at least. I can't see what you could possibly get out of it. Nobody begs for friendship. Not real friendship, anyway.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 I If she partly caused your breakup, or even caused issues in your relationship, I think I can understand how you feel since I went through something similar. It sucks. And it hurts. It's come up in several of my roughly twelve million threads. I dont' want to go look for it because I've been trying to no go over stuff. I've actually been deleting a lot emails and messages we've exchanged, pre-and post- breakup, all the old stuff still lying around.
magichands Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 The problem is, of course, I won't have sex with just anyone. I never realised that things were this bad. I'm so sorry.
Adunaphel Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 I'll admit he's not the brightest bulb on the marquee. Tends to say dumb stuff like this. Il you feel doing some lightbulb screwing, it better be a bright one.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 I never realised that things were this bad. I'm so sorry. god forbid i be picky of who puts their junk in me...
magichands Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 god forbid i be picky of who puts their junk in me... My trunk is not "junk" thank-you-very-much.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 My trunk is not "junk" thank-you-very-much. yea but i don't know where that trunk has been...
magichands Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 yea but i don't know where that trunk has been... I'm very, very particular. Or maybe I have that the wrong way around...
Ssheena Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 Sorry to hear your day is not going well (understatement). I can understand why you reacted the way you did, I'd probably be crying myself if it happened to me. Hopefully, Mr. Magichands sarcasm and wittyness made you smile a tad. I'm glad my x lives in lala land and I don't have to worry about seeing him. You are doing fine and who wants to be with a guy that isn't that bright?
the_alchemyst Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 I'm sorry to hear this, Kitten. You know I really am. It's a horrible feeling when the little progress we've made is suddenly countered with a huge step back, especially when it's caused by an external trigger. Sigh. It's really annoying when these "coincedences" occur, isn't it? But perhaps it was a good thing that you saw them together. I know from you last threads that you had been wondering if they were still as close friends as when your relationship ended, and especially after him having admitted fault for some of the problems you two had. And well, I think the same as you in that he truly does not know what the hell he's talking about: He apologizes to you for having caused "problems" between you two, and yet fails to realize that one of the biggest problems between you was she. He obviously does not think her a problem at all, even when you tried to make it clear to him that it was. His apology now doesn't seem to mean much, imo. But it is really frustruating that he keeps sending you emails where he tells you that he misses you and such, and then turns right around to pretty much ignore you again. It almost feels like he emails you when he's feeling lonely, and that your responces only serve to feed his ego. I am glad that they did not see you, though, because that would have probably been way too awkward. I don't know, Kitten. I think that you need to send him an email, tell him to drop your stuff off at X place and at X time, and say goodbye to him for good. These little contacts aren't helping you any because they tell you one thing, yet show you another. *hugs* And kudos to you for having morals, Kitten.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 I'm making tofu pad thai to make myself feel better....
Author KittenMoon Posted November 6, 2006 Author Posted November 6, 2006 I am glad that they did not see you, though, because that would have probably been way too awkward. The awkward part would have been her face hitting the pavement and me grinding it in. Of course, it probably would have been an improvement on it.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 6, 2006 Author Posted November 6, 2006 What did the pavement ever do to you? Hahaha. Nice. Talked to my mom about it. She's so livid at him. He just doesn't get it- he has no comprehension at all about what he does. That's like been the whole mantra I hear from everyone who knows him: "he just doesn't get it". p.S. Alchemyst- I'm glad to see you back to the Chris Bachalo Death avatar.
magichands Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 I saw what he wrote. He wants to grieve with you. How sweet.
the_alchemyst Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 Nope. An asterisk would be missing for that word. Anyway, Kitten, now my I'm all misty-eyed. *huggles again* I took a deep breath and listened to the old bray of my heart. I am. I am. I am. And remember that strong you certainly are.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 6, 2006 Author Posted November 6, 2006 Didn't it just say "sleep"? Why block that? I assumed he just wanted to sleep at the foot of my bed, like a good alpha dog.
magichands Posted November 6, 2006 Posted November 6, 2006 Didn't it just say "sleep"? Why block that? I assumed he just wanted to sleep at the foot of my bed, like a good alpha dog. Ohhh. Sleep. My mistake. He probably just wants to wake you up by sticking his tongue down your throat.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 6, 2006 Author Posted November 6, 2006 Nope. An asterisk would be missing for that word. Anyway, Kitten, now my I'm all misty-eyed. *huggles again* I took a deep breath and listened to the old bray of my heart. I am. I am. I am. And remember that strong you certainly are. I don't feel very strong right now. Oh well, maybe I'll have another breakdown and lose a bunch of weight again.
Author KittenMoon Posted November 6, 2006 Author Posted November 6, 2006 Ohhh. Sleep. My mistake. He probably just wants to wake you up by sticking his tongue down your throat. That would be about two and a half feet too high.
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