Tormented Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 I'm in an absolute panic right now and not sure what to do with this. While at work yesterday, I received word that there was a horrible accident yesterday involving a logging truck. My ex, whom I haven't had contact with for about 10 weeks now, is a logger. What bothered me was that I was told the truck hit a power line, knocking it over, and that the truck rolled 3 times and the cab became separated from the rest of the truck. I was also told that the truck was blue - SAME color as the truck my ex drives. The condition of the driver is unknown...have heard he wasn't badly injured, then heard he was critically injured, and one person said he heard the driver died. My heart started beating hard...my mind racing, wondering if it was my ex. But my anxiety went through the roof when it was confirmed that the truck was with the company my ex works for. Blue truck, same company....NOT good! It was suggested that the driver had a heart attack, mine has had 2...at the age of 42!...and others said rumor has it the driver fell asleep at the wheel, yet others say the driver had been drinking. My ex drinks when his life becomes more than he can handle...which is definitely the case right now. I thought about it long and hard and decided to call his cell. It went to voice mail immediately. I left a brief message, telling him I had heard about the accident, had heard the truck was blue and was worried about him, that I prayed it wasn't him and hoped he was okay. He hasn't returned my call...I've heard nothing. Which worries me even more because I know he'd call back. He frequently calls here, doesn't say anything when I answer...just sits silently until I hang up, but if he got my call yesterday, I'm fairly certain he'd call back. So now, I'm pacing the floors today wondering what I should do. I could call a friend of his, or his sister, but I fear that by doing so, and it wasn't him in the accident, this will encourage him to start contacting me. I've worked VERY hard to heal and I don't want a set back. On the other hand, if it WAS him in the accident, I NEED to know. Yes, he's my ex - yes, he DID hurt me, but I'm not cold-blooded and I still care about him. I don't know if his sister or friend would contact me if he was in an accident because it's been over 2 months since our breakup and it ended on a VERY bad note. I don't know what the hell to do. My mind is racing like crazy and I need to know if he's okay. What should I do??? ~T~
Ssheena Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 Can you call the company and get the name? Is there anything in the paper about it? Can you call a close friend of his or his sister and tell them why you are calling and that you just want to make sure it wasn't him? Can you quiet yourself and see if you get any feelings about it being him? Tough situation, I'd want to know as well! Good luck and I hope it's not him but it's unfortunate that someone lost their life.
pricillia Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 I would call his sister and just ask her... or can you have a family member of yours call or a close friend. You need to know!
whatarewedoing Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 your not going to be able to rest until you know.. put your mind at ease and at least attempt to make sure he is ok .. just dont try and get in touch with HIM
pricillia Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 yeah I would not wait another moment... You should know
Author Tormented Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 Can you call the company and get the name? Is there anything in the paper about it? Can you call a close friend of his or his sister and tell them why you are calling and that you just want to make sure it wasn't him? Can you quiet yourself and see if you get any feelings about it being him? Tough situation, I'd want to know as well! Good luck and I hope it's not him but it's unfortunate that someone lost their life. I did think about calling the logging company he works for to find out if it was him, but I doubt that they'd give me that information unless I was his wife or family member. As for calling his friend or sister, I thought about it and decided I'd wait for a bit, see if somebody contacts me first. I have a friend who is a logger...he doesn't work for the same company as my ex, but does know other loggers who do, and said he'd ask around and get back to me when he got word. But waiting is SO hard...I can hardly stand it! Yes, I do "feel" it's him...strongly so. All the facts I have received so far strongly indicates it COULD be him. I don't want to jump the gun and do something stupid...like call his sister and friend for fear of appearing like the hysterical ex-girlfriend, or give him the green light to start contacting me, but I NEED to know and it's hard!! So...I'll wait it out - and pace. ~T~
Author Tormented Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 I would call his sister and just ask her... or can you have a family member of yours call or a close friend. You need to know! Yes, I DO need to know...I'm crawling the wall here! And as hard as waiting is, I think I'll wait a little longer to see if somebody contacts me first, IF it was him. I have a friend who is looking into it so hopefully he'll find something out soon. All I want to know is if he's okay or not. Then I'll be alright.... ~T~
pricillia Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 Hang in there... I wish I could pick up the phone for you and call myself. hugs to you
Author Tormented Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 your not going to be able to rest until you know.. put your mind at ease and at least attempt to make sure he is ok .. just dont try and get in touch with HIM Nope...no rest for me tonight, as it was last night. I did call his cell and left a brief message...telling him I had heard about the accident, told him the few facts I knew, and that I hoped it wasn't him and he was okay. Left it at that and hung up. Haven't heard from him, so I don't know if he's just being a jerk and not calling back, or if he CAN'T. Don't know how to take his silence. I have a friend who's a logger looking into it and will get back to me as soon as he learns the facts. Sure hope he finds something out soon because I can't take this much longer! And no...I won't be calling him again. Haven't contacted him in over 2 months and I'm not gonna start now. This is SO hard!!! ~T~
Author Tormented Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 ...that the driver was NOT my ex, and there were no serious injuries although the truck is completely totalled. Apparently, the driver fell asleep at the wheel and levelled a powerline pole, then rolled down a hill. It truly is a miracle that he or others weren't seriously hurt or worse. So now I can let out a breath of relief! I want to thank those of you who responded...MUCH appreciated! I was in a state of panic and didn't know what to do. Thank God for this board and the compassionate people who post here! ~T~
miss snoopy Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 Glad to hear it wasn't your ex, Tormented, and that no-one was seriously hurt! But did you mean to add a roll-eye smilie?
pricillia Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 Glad to hear it wasn't your ex, Tormented, and that no-one was seriously hurt! But did you mean to add a roll-eye smilie? nah she had a tough night.
Author Tormented Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 But did you mean to add a roll-eye smilie? Oops! Lol... I picked that one because it looks like a "relieved" smile. Thank you snoopy...it's been a looooong night! ~T~
Author Tormented Posted November 5, 2006 Author Posted November 5, 2006 nah she had a tough night. Yes, indeed! But now I can sleep peacefully tonight. That was a scare I don't EVER want to go through again! Thanks to all of you who helped me through this ordeal. ~T~
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