Push & Pull, does it work!!

[caring guy]

Hi

Whilst on the 5th date & me respecting a girl by not showing her i just want to get her in bed & having got to the stage of heavy kissing, hugging, holding etc but nothing sexual, i'm not seeing her as much as i'd like as she said she's working tonight, tommorow & monday, very unsociable hours 10pm until 8am, so in the day she sleeps until the afternoon.

 

I fancy her a lot & don't want to text her all the time, or call her. She calls me sometime & asks if i want to meet up & we do, & we go out some nights, but if i instigate all contact & push her to arrange meetings, it's sure to mess things up right?

 

I last saw her Wednesday & her parents are coming to UK to see her for a week on Thursday (from Russia) & ill probably not see her for a week.

I spoke to her last night & we exchanged piccs by phone & i said to her to let me know when she's free & then the ball is in her court!

 

I guess it can be a fine line the push & pull thing, as if i not contact her, she may wonder why i haven't contacted & feel like i'm not interested which i definately am & texting too much like saying goodnight etc & lovey dovey romantic stuff which may annoy her & push her away.

Should i just wait for her contacy & give her all her space.

 

Ok, we're dating, not bf/gf, how long is reasonable to see someone whilst dating & sending sms's?

I feel like i have a plate of my favourite food, i'm starving & can have one mouthfull every hour!

 

Also there was a situation with some ex that called her & she said she couldn't talk now to him, i heard him asking her where she is & she says he annoys her by calling & being posessive.

This happened whilst i walked her to the bus, then when she was on the bus, she was on the phone as i walked down the road, but i guess i'm paranoid & trust is needed.

You shouldn't date more than 1 person ata time, we spoke of this, i said i didn't & i'd respect it if she didn't. She said ok.

Any advice

cg

[astral_00]

hmmm maybe ask her if she is ready to start going out as bf/gf yet? my last bf never called me and it pissed me off so much. maybe organise a really nice date, somewhere that wont distract you guys too much, and get to know each other really well. that way you have the confidence to ask her more. well hope that helps?? xx

[caring guy]

Hi & thanks

We have talked a lot & been to restaurant & have talked about us & how we are.

She said we're dating but not bf/gf yet!

The first time i saw her we just shook hands, the second time i kissed her on both cheeks, the 3rd time we held hands & i tried to kiss her lips but she didn't want as too early, then we went for coffee a couple of times & all was well, i feel comfortable with her & i think i'm gaining her trust, the last date i had my hand on her knee in the cinema & she seemed close to me with her posture, facing me etc, almost offering me her leg!

Then in a bar after i kissed her lips & she let me & then outside we had a big smooch & she had her hand on my leg in a bar, so each time is getting more touchy feely & intimate.

 

I saw her last on Wednesday, she is pretty busy. I don't want to give the impression of 'jumping' when she calls or texts.

How often is ok to text without OTT texting & does the 'if i leave it, she'll contact me' thing work.

She may even enjoy it that i'm chasing her.

Or she may be annoyed if i text her.

What i wonder is reasonable!, i guess i need patience as it is a virtue.

cg