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As for Scandinavian - I mean that their culture doesn't see divorce the same way as Americans do. Less shame.

 

As for fighting about money - who cares how much money someone has? If one spouse likes to spend, and the other likes to be frugal...there will be fights.

 

As for whether I know what's going on from a 1st person perspective - of course I don't. I go by what MM says. So, as an analytical human being, I automatically measure, compare and contrast MM's words to the cold, hard facts. And they all support each other. No gaps. I do this for everyone, not just MM.

 

Bottom line: in less than 2 months - the final "proof" will be evident. I have a plane ticket, including stops in his home country, where I will meet his parents (which I dread). We are looking at houses right now - and in about 1.5 months, we will move into one. We're looking at furniture, also.

 

So, on a purely logical standpoint, I guess it is a moot point whether or not W is taking this well. Everything is proceeding and accelerating and will culminate in the very near future.

 

I didn't want to bring this up, because people are accusing me of talking too much about money - but W has extra motivation to be civil. MM is voluntarily giving her 70% of his monthly income (the law only entitles her MUCH less).

 

She has been a shy housewife for the past 13 years, never really worked even before marriage. MM controls the bank account and the investments. MM has access to great lawyers. MM is well-connected. The divorce laws in the country are no-fault. There is a pre-nup.

 

She's an intelligent woman. For her own financial future, I'm sure she knows to fold while she's ahead.

 

As for his son - only time will tell. All I know for sure is that he and his father sent cell phone video messages to me this summer, with the son goofing around and telling jokes. And the son knew full well I was the girlfriend. So, his reactions in the present are not unusual, considering the history.

 

But, MM leaving his W is not the end all. There is no guarantee of happily ever after.

 

The critical part is our first year together - will we be happy? Will it be what we thought it would be? And then will we survive another year? Then another? Will there be children in the future? What will happen when he reaches a certain age?

 

Anyways - thanks for reading my story. It's my story...nothing more, nothing less.

 

As the chapter in my life as OW concludes, I look foward to being a fiancee, and wife. Again, thanks for reading my story.

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Ok, so I read the link about the text message. Once again, if this is true, you have a sick man on your hands. How could a father tell his 12 year old son that he loves another woman before he tells his wife? Especially if what you said about them being so civil is true. And the kid is joking around as his dad is telling him. You even admit that your MM is being destructive. This is the strangest story I have read on this board. I wouldn't buy it in a Hollywood movie. He even has the kid say hi on a video message. Sick!!!!!!!

 

When I get some time, I'm going to read the other posts about this relationship, I love fiction.

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It only took a few minutes in reading your others posts to tell me that this story is a pack of lies. There are many inconsistencies, but I will just point out one to save space and my time. On May 13 you say that the affair has gone on for 1 year, then on May 21 you say that it has only been 6 months. Along with that and many unbelievable parts to your story, I can honestly say that you are a liar.

 

I think it's disgusting that you come here to a board that is for people who have been hurt and asking for help and waste their valuable time. I hope that you are truthful when you say you are in therapy, because you really need it.

 

Next time you decide to write a fictional story gets your facts straight.

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We're supposed to be keepin' it civil here. Ok;)

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I need to readers digest version of this story please....Im trying to go back and understand it. But im very sorry i am terribly confused.

 

How old is everyone? The kids know? Always did? He had money and taking the OW on a trip then moving in together? When and Why premartial counseling?

 

I just want to understand.

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We're supposed to be keepin' it civil here. Ok;)

 

Yes, I did promise to be civil, but I also said that I would be honest. I really don't think this is a true story. There are so many things that don't make sense. I just don't like to see the people here taken advantage of, that's all. If anyone else believes her and wants to continue to help her with her situation, that's fine. No one has to believe me, I just wanted to point out that this could be a fake story.

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I need to readers digest version of this story please....Im trying to go back and understand it. But im very sorry i am terribly confused.

 

How old is everyone? The kids know? Always did? He had money and taking the OW on a trip then moving in together? When and Why premartial counseling?

 

I just want to understand.

 

 

Hey, yousaveme, how are you?

 

I don't understand it either, so I went back and read some of the stuff. It all sounds so strange.

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Hey, yousaveme, how are you?

 

I don't understand it either, so I went back and read some of the stuff. It all sounds so strange.

 

 

I tried to go back and read the story. Thats why i am very confused..

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I tried to go back and read the story. Thats why i am very confused..

 

Ditto. I can't grasp it either. DOH!

herenow Established Member

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I tried to go back and read the story. Thats why i am very confused..

 

Check out the August post where she says that he has never given her any money and that money is not a part of their relationship. Cut to now he has given her $2500, a ring each month (not cheap ones for hundreds, they cost thousands), expensive furniture, etc. Her apartment is full of expensive gifts he has given her.

 

She does need help, but not from us. She needs to attend a writers workshop so that she can outline her story so next time she won't have such a continuity problem

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Check out the August post where she says that he has never given her any money and that money is not a part of their relationship. Cut to now he has given her $2500, a ring each month (not cheap ones for hundreds, they cost thousands), expensive furniture, etc. Her apartment is full of expensive gifts he has given her.

 

She does need help, but not from us. She needs to attend a writers workshop so that she can outline her story so next time she won't have such a continuity problem

 

 

I missed that part. Is there a readers digest verison? Please.

Im confused by the ages also. And the son, And the trip.

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herenow Established Member

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Sorry, I apologize. I have a friend here that e-mailed me the info about gifts. It turns out that my friend was talking about a story she had read on another board that she thought was fake as well. I have not been to that other board, so I though she was talking about this one. Disregard the money stuff.

 

I still think the rest of it is fake.

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Sorry, I apologize. I have a friend here that e-mailed me the info about gifts. It turns out that my friend was talking about a story she had read on another board that she thought was fake as well. I have not been to that other board, so I though she was talking about this one. Disregard the money stuff.

 

I still think the rest of it is fake.

 

Ah...Okay

 

 

Well, this story has become very confusing to me still. So if anyone an just give me the readers digest version i would appericate it...

 

Did he leave his W or not?

herenow Established Member

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Ah...Okay

 

 

Well, this story has become very confusing to me still. So if anyone an just give me the readers digest version i would appericate it...

 

Did he leave his W or not?

 

I think the best person to give us the readers digest version would be yesmaybe.

 

You know what I just noticed? Look how similar your names are. I think yesmaybe is a yousaveme wannabe.

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Is your member name in any way a reference to the song You save me that I heard on the CMA's last nite? Sorry off topic.

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Is your member name in any way a reference to the song You save me that I heard on the CMA's last nite? Sorry off topic.

 

 

Thats a pretty song...

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I think the best person to give us the readers digest version would be yesmaybe.

 

You know what I just noticed? Look how similar your names are. I think yesmaybe is a yousaveme wannabe.

 

 

My MM has ZERO money...But yes it is kinda weird, had to do a double take when i saw the names

herenow Established Member

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My MM has ZERO money...But yes it is kinda weird, had to do a double take when i saw the names

 

Think about it. Your situation where the kid's happiness is important and yesmaybe trying to make it sound like the son and BW are just fine with everything. She has taken little bits of your story and tweaked it to make a different one. I guess she's not as original as I gave her credit for.

 

The problem is that she has written a story that goes against human nature.

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Think about it. Your situation where the kid's happiness is important and yesmaybe trying to make it sound like the son and BW are just fine with everything. She has taken little bits of your story and tweaked it to make a different one. I guess she's not as original as I gave her credit for.

 

The problem is that she has written a story that goes against human nature.

 

 

Where? Show me.....

herenow Established Member

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Where? Show me.....

 

OK, I haven't had the time to read it all yet, so here are some similarities.

 

MM has cheated before

 

MM is in a loveless marriage

 

OW knows that MM will leave for her, but they are not divorcing because of the OW.

 

Wife knows that marriage is over, but instead of WIFE asking if the MM loves the OW, this story has the KID asking it. A sick little twist if you ask me.

 

I don't have the time to look for more, but I'm sure if I could break it down I would find some.

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OK, I haven't had the time to read it all yet, so here are some similarities.

 

MM has cheated before

 

MM is in a loveless marriage

 

OW knows that MM will leave for her, but they are not divorcing because of the OW.

 

Wife knows that marriage is over, but instead of WIFE asking if the MM loves the OW, this story has the KID asking it. A sick little twist if you ask me.

 

I don't have the time to look for more, but I'm sure if I could break it down I would find some.

 

 

i need to read this thread completely...

herenow Established Member

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i need to read this thread completely...

 

Also, if you have a chance go back and read some of her original posts.

 

I think I may be spending to much time on this and I'm feeling the need to move on. I just can't help being bothered by this. It's like a train wreck.

 

I'm really interested to know what you think.

 

By the way, I haven't even gotten through this entire thread.

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Also, if you have a chance go back and read some of her original posts.

 

I think I may be spending to much time on this and I'm feeling the need to move on. I just can't help being bothered by this. It's like a train wreck.

 

I'm really interested to know what you think.

 

By the way, I haven't even gotten through this entire thread.

 

 

Okay, I will try

herenow Established Member

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Hey, yesmaybe, where are you? We need some answers!

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OK, here is a bit more and then I have a meeting to go to.

 

The marriage was anywhere from 15 years to 18 years.

 

The son is anywhere from 11 years old to 13 years old.

 

The trips and the counseling dates are just mind boggling and I can't figure it out without spending much to much time on this.

 

Done now, thank you and I wish you all well!

 

P.S. - yesmaybe, keep your day job, you will never succeed as a writer.

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