Pyro Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 we may have our differences RIDDLER but i will say you're a smart kid....you'll do OK. Thanks. I just want to be able to raise a family without debts to pay off, so my kids don't have to live borderline low class/lower middle class like I did. I just think its a silly idea to start a family if you are not ready financially.
Touche Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 If you think having kids as something to "get out of the way" as soon as possible, then in my opinion you ought not have any to begin with.
IpAncA Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 If you think having kids as something to "get out of the way" as soon as possible, then in my opinion you ought not have any to begin with. Ok that I said came out WAY wrong.
Pyro Posted November 4, 2006 Posted November 4, 2006 If you think having kids as something to "get out of the way" as soon as possible, then in my opinion you ought not have any to begin with. Agreed. Kids should be had when you are able and ready.
RecordProducer Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 enjoy the married life before I settle down and raise a family.... which means the baby will be conceived right after the honeymoon!
RecordProducer Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 But a big fear of mine as far as relationships are concerned is that when I eventually get married (in the distant future) my husband will decide he wants kids (or worse yet always really wanted them but figured I'd change my mind) and then our marriage would be over. I'd hate for it to be the other way around. Are you open to marrying a guy with kids? Those are the ones who are usually certain that they don't want any more kids (usually that's the biggest problem for their new childless wives). Even if they do want one with the new wife (you), if they already have one or two from a previous relationship, you not wanting any children may not be a problem at all for them. But marrying a man with kids is a delicate situation itself. If you ever do, please make sure that his children are not problematic. A demanding, hysterical, selfish child that lives with HIM can ruin your marriage (happened to me in my first marriage). A teenager focused on school and sports, living with his or her mom may not be a problem at all.
Pyro Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 ... which means the baby will be conceived right after the honeymoon! Don't scare me like that RP.
rainfall Posted November 5, 2006 Posted November 5, 2006 I understand how you feel crazy girl. I myself never want kids and always hear peopel telling me, "don't worry you will change your mind one day." Why they think I am worried I really don't understand. I enjoy having freedom to do what I want, when I want way to much to have to stop to look after a kid. Thankfully my bf feels exactly the same way about children so I am lucky.
Kenyth Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I don't know why people harrass the folks who don't want kids. It's a personal choice and a win-win situation. For one thing, there are plenty of people who think they want kids who find later they can't handle it. At least these folks are honest enough to admit that they don't want the commitment. Bad parents produce bad kids. Also, even if they are as selfish as they are accused of, not reproducing should technically lower the potential numbers of selfishly inclined people in the world, yes? It also allows more potential resources for your kids, yes? See! It's a win-win situation, so kwitcherbichin!
PussInHeels Posted November 8, 2006 Posted November 8, 2006 I want to have kids because I love children, and I have doting personality: I like to care for people and do things to positively influence their lives. I know it sounds a bit crap, but it's true. My husband, on the other hand, is not too fond of children. But he has gone from saying, "Screw that," to "Well, ok, but they'll probably be little monsters." He must be remembering himself as a kid because I was an angel. I don't think my H will be mean or unloving towards our kids when the time comes, but what he says makes me just a tad uneasy. I guess I'll give it a few years, see how things go...
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